In the same way as other single twenty-year-olds, I'm not a stranger to the internet dating world. It's super helpful, I believe - I jump at the chance to consider it a virtual grocery store brimming with men and women - and it's sort of wonderful, truly – you can peruse dating destinations in the solace of your own home while wearing a night robe or even nothing at all. Even eating frozen yogurt or a big dinner of a greasy hamburger. With some nice tunes in the background, right? Or is that just me?
Anyway, as I returned home from yet another horrendous first date, I took a gander at my timetable, and understood that I had three more first dates coming up in the following week. Oh my! Three. In one week. It was then that I thought to myself that possibly, quite possibly, I'm going on a couple of excessively numerous dates. Is that bad? Is it accurate to say that anyone else is liable to this? Here are 7 signs that you're on the same boat with me.
1.Dating feeling like your daily labor routine.
“Ain’t nobody got time for that!” If you seem to have a schedule like mine, you have to take into account your job obligations, social life, any other type of volunteer work and even down time! You should think of cutting back if you are trying to squeeze in someone between work and other obligations you must tend to. Ask yourself the question: lunch date, yay or nay? Are they okay with a lunch date or dinner date? Coordinating the time might feel like work, so beware of how you function and how you want to go about this.
2. TELLING THE SAME STORY OVER AND OVER
Somehow, I found myself telling the same story to all of these potential mates. There was once when I went on a second date where I was telling the person how my family are Canadian, they politely interrupted and said, “You just told me this story!” I guess I went into autopilot and started ranting because I was bored! Maybe I need to find how to give advice for first date conversation starters.
3. It feels like a natural thing and the nerves are gone.
I remember having butterflies when I went out with someone, however, I feel like I have too much anticipation that my nerves don’t have a mind of their own anymore. I can’t remember the last time I experienced being nervous for a date. How sad!
4. You don’t know which number of the date is it.
How quickly can you tell me something interesting about the last few people you went out with? Now tell me how many dates you have been on in the last 6 months and their first name. I can’t! You probably go on too many dates. I am not even mad at this!
5. Becoming a regular at the restaurant and bar.
Oh, I am ashamed of this! I always seem to choose the spot with all the people I’ve been on a date with. A nice cozy place, where there are activities, music, food, drinks and conversation ambient, yeah living on Long Island means down the block for me. I’m sure the waiters already now my name and wonder why I’m always with different people. Shameful!
6. Having no time for anything else.
Sometimes I feel as if it’s just work and dates, dates and work or class and dates, dates and class. It is so rare for me to have a night with my best friend, my bed. I also have the tendency to turn down invitations from my friends because of a date plan I already had. Maybe I need to rethink this dating game!
7. GOING ON DATES ISN'T EXCITING ANYMORE!
This, this makes me shutter! I am not excited to meet someone new anymore. If dating doesn’t feel fun any longer, and it begins to feel like something else I have to do, then that is a BIG sign that you should take a breather from dating. Your friends and family will thank you for it.
So keep in mind that dating isn’t always fun as it seems, however, it is with the right person!
Xoxo, J.
