Yes, I do understand that you will either break up or get married but why are you so focused on that? Recently I've had some huge wake-up calls that have opened my eyes to the world around me.

Earlier today a good friend of mine hit my line, freaking out because someone said "it's weird how you either marry someone or break up," which isn't necessarily wrong, but you're missing the point. Dating someone is great. You gain a new insight and perspective on so many things around you. You gain new friends, fun experiences, and someone to share day to day life with.

You get to learn about that other person and their past and what they aspire to do in the future while hyping them up to succeed, while they do the same to you in return. That is so gosh dang cool to me. When you go in with this mindset of "it's going to end or it's going to last forever" you're already wrong. Jump ship. Swim away. Let that other person be with someone who enjoys, supports, and grows with them day to day without any crazy things attached to it.

That's so much extra stress, and relationships should not be stressful. They should be your escape from the stress of day to day life, not the cause of it. If you can't love and support them every day without the "I envisioned this for our future so I'm going to let these little things that bug me slide because it's not a big deal long term" you are already running straight towards the breakup.

Address issues. Address small things. Communicate even if you think it will cause problems. If it bothers you, say something, because in the end, the small things will build up and you already set yourself up for disaster with your mindset going into it and both of you ultimately end up hurt.

But more importantly, you have bigger things than the person sitting in front of you. Tuition is expensive so don't lose your focus on school. Don't lose your focus on your friends because they will be there through every good and bad day. Don't lose your focus on your own future, the one that pertains to you and only you. Because you know what, breakups happen. Life happens. The person looking back at you in the mirror is the only person's reflection you will see for the rest of your life, so don't lose yourself.

And let's be honest, I don’t even know what I'm going to make for dinner much less who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. I've changed my major a million times and my taste in boys changes monthly at best. I don't know who I am, I don’t know what I want. I'm trying to figure that out and I would hope that someone is down to figure that out along side me but I won't commit myself to someone if I can't even commit to myself. People and situations change daily so if we beat out time and things settle into place, lovely. But that should not be a daily goal.

So enjoy the people around you. Enjoy the experiences that are happening. Focus on what you're doing today because tomorrow will come regardless. If you find a person you want to get to know and spend part of your life with, do it. Grow with them. Give your all and enjoy every second of it right now. Right here. Today. No strings attached.