A Letter To My Dad: The Original Hype Man

A Letter To My Dad: The Original Hype Man

Every since I was born, my dad has been there to push me to be the greatest I can be, and for that I'm thankful.


The idea of this article came to me while I was jamming out to "Magic Man" by Heart, a song my dad engraved in my siblings and me from a young age. I was flashing back to sitting in the backseat, my dad encouraging each of us to take turns chiming in on different parts of the song.

I've thought about it before, but never actually brought it up to my dad, but we really have been each other's hype man since I can remember. He was always there to encourage us in all the right ways. We also returned all the hype to him as well. I can recall always laughing at my dad's jokes, egging on his hilarious behavior, often while Mom sat there rolling her eyes.

My dad had three of us, all three years in age, to always be his hype group. We'd be piled into his blue pickup truck, driving to the summer football camp he coached, waiting for the part of "Bohemian Rhapsody" he taught us to head-bang our hearts out to.

I'm sure not everyone has the same exact rock n' roll memories as I do with mine, or the past experiences of having your dad coach your 7th-grade basketball team, but in one way or another, dads are always there to hype you up.

There comes that time in preteen/teen years when we start to test authority and push our limits with the rules, and as your hype man, dads also have to encourage those actions that aren't going to do you any good.

A hype man wants you to be the most successful you can be. If you're being a delinquent, he can't hype you up for much then, huh. It may not have made sense then, but there probably isn't a time they discouraged a behavior of yours that you now (assuming several years have passed) don't regret at all and may even thank him for.

To put it simply; your hype man doesn't have to always hype you up if you're not being an individual worth hyping up. That sounds harsh, but it doesn't need to be taken that way. Your dad wants to see you thrive, succeed, be the best you. If they're acting some type of way about something you've done and shared with them, maybe you need to take a minute and think about it.

As I've grown into a "young adult" the hype man has turned from practicing a better shot in basketball to getting a new internship and graduating college. The challenges and achievements may have changed, but one thing has not.

There on my sidelines will always be my number one hype man. The person who has been there through the downs, and cheered me through the ups. From childhood, through my rough teen years, through my rough early college years (sorry dad, I know I've been a tough team to root for), to finishing up my last years at university.

My dad has been there for me, cheering me on, hyping me up, helping me get to where I need to be.

In conclusion, shout out to my dad, Steve Dougherty. He's the coolest science teacher-coach dad I could ever ask for. He has always and will always be my hype man. It may be bragging for me to say, but you did a damn good job raising us three, and thank you for always cheering me on.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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