Recently, I have noticed a few people in my life that have more of a negative effect on me than a positive one. I realized they just bring me down in more ways than one.
We used to be so close and I thought they were nothing but a positive person in my life. However, over the last few months, I have discovered that I was wrong.
At the end of last year, me and three of my closest friends hit a rough patch that lasted for the last few months of the school year and the whole summer. I'm not going to get into it, but it was a rough time because I felt like they completely deserted me.
The only friend I talked to out of those three friends was my best friend since kindergarten. We talked everything out and became closer because of it. I felt so alone, but by the end of the summer, that feeling changed.
Feeling that kind of loneliness brought out the side of me that wanted to meet new people and try new things. That summer, I got a job at an amusement park and I even got a boyfriend. I made so many new great friends at that job. The summer did a complete 360 from being a terrible boring summer to the best summer ever.
By the end of the summer, two out of three of my friends apologized and we were all good. However, the one friend that never even said sorry was the friend who turned out to be such a toxic person. We hung out sometimes like we used to, but things never got back to how they were.
Later this year, I wound up getting a job with her that I hate. I never said I was going to quit to her, but she felt like it was her place to tell people at work that I was going to quit. One of the managers heard and called me into her office to talk to me about it, saying that she overheard from employees that I was going to quit.
When I called her out, she lied about it and said she never said anything. However, I had multiple people tell me about her going off about me, and even one of my coworkers told me that she told them that I was going to quit.
With all this evidence against her, I decided that our friendship needed to come to an end. Over the past month, I have opened my eyes to see that our friendship wasn't a good one, and it was over from the end of last year when she chose other people and started talking about me then.
The moral of the story is that ever since I made the decision to cut her out, I have felt a weight lift off my shoulders. My guy best friend has been telling me for months about how toxic she was to me, but I never had the guts to do something about it.
Now, she's out of my life and I feel so good. If you have someone who continues to bring you down, cut them out.
You'll be glad you did.