New relationships are a whirlwind of excitement, romance, and lovey-dovey feelings. It feels like time is flying by. You want to spend every second with your person, and everything they do is adorable. They do no wrong, and you ask yourself daily how you could be so lucky. This is the cupcake phase though honey, and let me tell you it doesn't last. I'm not trying to be cynical, but eventually, the blinders of love will come off, and you'll start to notice their gross habits. It's only natural that as the two of you grow closer, you become more comfortable around each other and weird habits start to become more evident.
Don't worry idealize the cupcake phase, and don't spend your time longing for the days of old, because you'll go crazy. Typically, the end of the cupcake phase is either the start of something long-term or the beginning of the end. Everyone's subscription to the bliss of cupcakery eventually expires so don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you.
So, now that the beginning of the relationship is over, you'll see what you've established a little clearer. This is a great time to reevaluate your compatibility and see how things work between the two fo you without the clouded judgment of puppy love. See if you two click, and I mean really click. You don't have to agree on everything, but your views on the big things, whatever they may be for you, should align pretty closely. Assess your feelings. Do you enjoy just being next to them? Do you worry about what they're doing? Are you still in love or were you ever? Is your significant other still who they appeared to be when you first started your relationship?
These are hard questions to ask Answer your questions honestly.
One way or another, the end of the cupcake phase IS the start of your forever.
You're personal forever, that is. Because, whether your relationship begins to blossom through this next phase of life and wedding bells begin to chime, or you realize they aren't who you want to be with forever, you can begin the next chapter of your life now and start working on forever.
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