They say it takes a village and in my growing up, I know that this is true. Throughout my life, I would always hear about the importance of being supported and loved by people inside and outside of my family. The notion of community was significant and the role these people played in my life has been a constant for as long as I can remember. These are the people who celebrate my accomplishments, always lend an ear when something is on my mind, and are there for a shoulder when I need one. My community is like my second family! I have grown to need these people in my life because they are part of my support system and to be honest, a key to my success as a person.
When I think about all the times I have felt safe, loved, and wanted by these people, it brings a tear to my eyes. Like looking up in the stands at graduation to see not only your parents but your best friend’s parents as well, who love you like their own. Or at holiday and super bowl parties when everyone comes together to enjoy each other’s company, speak freely and laugh for hours. Or at yummy Potluck Dinners, when people know you’re the pickiest eater ever so they make you something special. I have many different people who I would consider to be part of my village. From my best friend’s parents, to my parents' best friends, to the people they grew up with. I couldn’t imagine my life without having all of these amazing people being part of it. This is the world I was lucky enough to grow up in.
When I left for college, I realized even more how important that sense of community is in my life. Being away at school, I have created my own sense of a village with my good friends and an extended group of people who laugh with me, cry with me, study with me, workout with me and just live with me. Creating this “village” was really important. I love what each of my friends brings to my life and how they enhance each moment. So that sense of community is never far away.
When I become a parent, I know I want my children to have the exact same experience I had. I wish for them to grow up with a multitude of people surrounding them who love them unconditionally, people who they can go to when they need some advice, or just know they are safe around them. I honestly don’t know what kind of person I would be if this wasn’t the way I was raised.
One things for sure, if you grew up in a situation like me, you know how extremely lucky you are. I know that when I come home, all of these people will be so excited to see me, and I will be equally as excited to see them. So shout out to my village, from Maplewood Park, to my Siren Fam, to Brooklyn and more, because without you, I wouldn’t be me.
