In the entirety of my life, I have only ever had one female roommate or one male roommate; I have never experienced a house full of women - all with their very own specific, and unique lives... until now. I currently live with three other women and the last month and a half of my life has been, well, crazy. During this time I have realized that crazy is as crazy does and that each one of us is a little crazy in our own way. If it's not one thing, then it's another and if we survive and move past that then there is something else on the horizon. Something very important that I have learned is: crazy is relative.
Look: I'm not saying any of us are perfect and I'm especially not saying that we don't get too emotional, but what I am saying is that there is usually a human and their insensitive actions behind our crazy. I have thought on this enough times to create the following list of five things one can do to ensure they are not responsible for adding to the crazy.
1. When you say you are going to do something Nike said it best, Just Do It. Excuses are one of the worst things you can give someone so either give them the truth or give them an apology. The rest is a waste of my time and your time.
2. If you aren't into it anymore then say you aren't into it anymore. It might hurt for a little while, but once that is said and done you might have actually earned our respect because you were upfront; the minute you started doubting it.
3. Don't you dare invalidate her feelings or tell her the way she feels doesn't matter to you. Seriously? You thought saying, "you're crazy and that is one of the stupidest things you've ever said" was the right way to go about this? Please get out of my face.
4. If she never asks anything of you, and there is a time she requires your help, please do not make her ask twice. She's not doing it because she's trying to manipulate you or use you - she genuinely needs your help and you should already know she's that special kind of crazy that refuses to ask for help.
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5. There will come a time when her crazy is a little too crazy, and in those moments do not tell her to calm down. I assure you, she's already trying to ease her own storm, but you pointing out that it's brimming on uncomfortable is just going to make it worse and she'll be even in more embarrassed, thus progressing the crazy train on its way to crazy town.
We're crazy, but we're not all unreasonable. Level with us - we'll promise not to level you.
