For whatever reason we live in a generation that has the wrong idea about relationships. Either you’re just dating to date, you’re too heartless to date or you’re too crazy for a relationship. Dating to date can be rationalized as can being too heartless if you’ve been burned before. But, for some reason, people truly enjoy the crazy girlfriend/boyfriend persona. Too bad for them crazy isn’t cute.
There’s nothing sexy or attractive about being with someone that is self-proclaimed as a crazy significant other. Being with someone that is a tad bit overprotective or slightly jealous is totally normal and okay but the people that let all of their insecurities flood to the surface and act legitimately crazy or not to be messed with let alone the type of person you should get into a relationship with.
I’m not saying people who have insecurities are the people who are crazy in relationships but generally the crazy people in relationships only act that way because they let every little thing become an insecurity or they let all of their preexisting insecurities flood to the surface and let it justify their horrible over-barring hold on their partner in a relationship.
A person that’s constantly telling their significant other that they can’t wear something, hang out or talk to certain people or constantly need to check in on you and need a play by play on what you’re doing are generally the crazy ones I’m talking about.
Why would you want to date someone that doesn’t allow you to express yourself through your clothes or makeup? Why wouldn’t you want to be with someone that likes your friends and wants you to hang out with them as often as you like? Why wouldn’t you want to be with someone that trusts you enough to let you go out, have fun and not need a play by play on every conversation you had there and need to know exactly what’s happening? No one wants this. Although you’re in a relationship you still have your freedom but people love to broadcast that they don’t allow their significant other to do certain things and that they’ll snap on them just because “Lol I’m such a crazy girlfriend/boyfriend."
Being crazy or being with someone who likes to act like they’re crazy in a relationship does not make for a healthy relationship in the long run. People need to stop first of all glorifying mental disorders when they say, “OMG, I’m so bipolar! Sometimes I just go off on him/her and the next moment I love them again.” That’s not good to begin with and they shouldn’t be throwing the word “bipolar” around so casually. Secondly, why would you want to be like this? You wouldn’t want someone to act like this so why would you? And just because whoever you’re with deals with it doesn’t make it okay. This generation needs to learn that being crazy in a relationship isn’t a trend nor is it desirable. People can just be themselves, do what they want in a relationship so long as it’s respectful to the relationship itself and who they’re with.
