When it comes to relationships, one minute things can feel perfect and the next minute you find yourself wondering what went wrong. We've all been there, you think that you've found something that will last with someone special until you realize that someone isn't as special as you thought. People let you down, they disappear from your life with nothing but your memories left to remind you of what once was, and if you're like me, you're left feeling abandoned and at fault.
I've always had a hard time letting people go. They say that people come and go from your life for a reason, but more often than not I've struggled to understand what the reason could be for losing someone you love. There isn't an easy or clear explanation when it comes to heartbreak, but if you've ever experienced one, you know that you would do practically anything to avoid that unbearable pain if you could.
After experiencing my first real heartbreak, I struggled to let people in. I built a wall and over the years, there have been very few who have managed to break through. At times I've felt terrified, unsure as to whether or not people would still love me once they actually got to know me. After all, I'm still learning to love who I am, for all that I am. Growing close to someone, feeling as if you can trust them, and ultimately feeling accepted is perhaps the best feeling. But sometimes there are people you let in, who ultimately choose to leave. What's more terrifying, is losing someone and feeling like you're losing a piece of yourself too.
Losing someone you love, someone you've given yourself to, only to end up wondering what all of that time and effort was for is hard to say the least. But you'll end up losing more of yourself if you continue to hold on to those who don't want to be there, trust me, I've learned the hard way. You shouldn't continue to give to those who take without giving anything back in return, and giving your all to someone only to have them leave is their loss, not yours. Eventually there will come someone who is able to love you as unconditionally as you have loved all of those before him.
It takes courage to let go of what you can't change, and while it might be one of the most difficult decisions, it can also prove to be one of the happiest moments in life. People come and go from you life for a reason, and maybe the reason is to find the people who truly deserve to have you in their life too.
