Stop.

As humans, we are made to be incomplete, as crazy as that seems. Call me unrealistic, but we are not to be fulfilled by other people. They can make us our happiest selves, but they will never be the source of our ultimate completeness.

I will never tell someone that they complete me, even if it might feel that way. It’s entirely untrue. We should not be reliant on someone, just as broken as we are, to come and try to perfect us.

We do not deserve to be completed by a person who is just as incomplete as we are. We were made for so much more than that.

It makes me sad to see people in unhappy relationships with their significant others. Don't let the relationship be the reason you have value. Find your value in being who you are before you put it in your relationship.

Maybe the reason it makes me sad to see unhappy people in relationships is that I have never known what it feels like to be in a relationship where I was unhappy. (Disclaimer, I have had hard relationships in the past, but never to the point where I was staying in the relationship and being willing to be unhappy for the sake of staying with the other person.)

I believe that it’s important to see your relationship as something that can lead you to marriage someday. If you don’t want to marry someday, do you see yourself with the person someday in the future, maybe 5 or 10 years from now?

I judge the relationship by how it is in the present, not just the highs of the relationship. To find out if I want to experience the future with the person I’m with, I must weigh the entire relationship, the good and the bad.

The entire relationship should be a team effort. No one person should ever try and complete the other. There is no way to be the “other half” of someone, since we are not perfectly compatible with someone.

Both people in the relationship have flaws and there is no real way to be able to made complete in someone who has flaws. We are made complete in Jesus and there is no way around it.