Everyone reacts a different way when tragedy occurs. Some cry, some need to be alone and some need to be around people. But what outsiders in a tragedy do not know is that everyone has a different way of dealing with different situations. Although it is the normal thing to want to talk about the situation at hand, some people cope better when they are left alone and avoid talking about the situation.
When tragedy occurs for someone, it is as if their whole lives just got flipped upside down; nothing is their world is okay anymore and it is as if everything has come crashing down around them. So in reality their life literally is a mess at the moment. But when it comes down to it, each individual finds their own way to deal with new situations. The reality behind coping with tragedy is that no one really knows how long the person will endure the pain of heartbreak or how to help them as an outsider. In order to truly help a person who has endured tragedy is to truly find out what they need and to put your personal thoughts, ideas, and preconceived notations behind and become the person that they need by their side to do what they need at any given moment.
There comes a time in everyone's life that they will experience loss in somehow, whether it be the loss of a family member, pet, or friend, and when these types of tragedy occur, everyone reacts in a different way. Depending on the relationship between the lost one and person trying to cope with the situation, their coping mechanisms may vary. In order to cope with the loss of someone special, people may do things that surprise others, such as shut down and insist on being alone, lash out in anger, or even run away from the situation. Depending on the person's personal emotional connection to themselves, they will react different to different situations. The reality of the situation is that no one really knows how anyone is going to react, whether it is them self or a loved one, and there is no fine print way of helping another person.
A lot of people find it helpful when positive attitude is shown towards the person coping, such as surrounding them with people that love and support them, helping them with their daily lives, or even just lending an ear to listen to them as they go through their hard time. By showing people positive gestures during their time of need, it helps prevent them from having negative thoughts, feeling alone during their hard time, keeps them from becoming bitter in their jumbled mess, and will show them that they have people that are there to support them and love them in any situation which makes them feel safe and supported.
