Every girl is capable of loving two things: chocolate and boys.
As I was thinking about this while treating myself to the left over Easter candy isle, I came up with an analogy to compare the two. Sure, there’s the obvious, chocolate can be rich (in flavor) while a guy can be rich (with money). But then I thought deeper, leading me to the conclusion that different kinds of chocolate can compare to different types of guys.
Let’s start our analogy with a Hershey's Bar. Many people are introduced to this candy as their first chocolate. Similarly, everybody has their first relationship. These compare in that when they are experienced they are original and unforgettable. As you are with this initial partner, you are content with the simplicity. While indulging in either of these new treats, you aren’t thinking about other options. However, unfortunately, the majority of these first relationships don’t work out. Either you realize you deserve better than this first “love” or you discover you might not like chocolate at all (this is equivalent to deciding to be a single 70-year-old cat lady, which is still my backup plan).
It will be hard if/when you and your original companion separate (whether it’s the Hershey’s or the person). You might not be able to picture yourself in any other situation. But during the hard times you need to think of the better things you have coming. Remind yourself of how you could get bored of the plain milk chocolate, or of how your first guy didn’t treat you as well as you deserved. While moving on, stay open to new things and look for better qualities than what was in your first partnership.
The first step in moving on past Hershey’s is adding the peanut butter, as you now have a Reese’s. Likewise, you’ll meet a new person that cares about you more than your first. Now as you are together, you can’t help but think, “Wow, this is so much better than my Hershey’s." Don’t feel bad for thinking this.
While you are with your new partner, you might find yourself comparing your experiences, and it’s alright if you miss the plain milk chocolate. But take the time to appreciate your newly found Reese’s. Some people might choose to stay with their 'Reese’s’ and never explore beyond this out-of-the-world duo, but others might continue to look for a new taste that compliments them even more.
If you’re someone that continues to keep searching, good for you. If for whatever reason another relationship doesn’t work out, or you didn’t enjoy the Reese’s as much as you thought you would, there are more things out there that you will enjoy. For example, you might add caramel and nuts and eventually have a Snickers, just like you might find a partner that has your best interest in mind always.
The main point that I’m attempting to get to in this analogical writing is to never settle for less than you deserve.
I know it may be hard to take this seriously, but I hope I have conveyed my point. If you’re restricted, due to an allergy for example, then sure, maybe a Hershey’s is the one for you. However, if you aren't happy in your situation, I dare you to look ahead for something/someone that will treat you as well as you deserve.
There will always be another chocolate to choose from, and because of this you should never have to settle. Don’t worry about rushing your “chocolate tasting” either, as eventually you will realize which sweet you were destined to be with.
