Chances are if you have found yourself on this page, you or someone you know lives with the constant struggle known as anxiety. Those of us who deal daily with this disorder understand that it can create extra pressure, trouble, and mental and emotional strain in the already chaotic life of a college student. It's so vitally important that we take the time to slow down and take our lives just one day at a time or sometimes just a minute at a time if that is what we need. Here are a few reminders I want to offer to my fellow anxiety sufferers.
You are not alone.
Hundreds of thousands of Americans live with anxiety, and many in this population are college students. When I was diagnosed in high school, I thought that I was just a freak for being so different for always stressing and worrying, but a doctor let me in on a little secret ––- although many students seem very put together, it may only be a facade, and they may also feel the same anxiety and daily pressures.
Confide in friends and family.
The idea of telling anyone that you have a mental disorder may feel embarrassing, but I guarantee that talking to a friend about it will make you feel so much better. Let your friends and family be there to love and support you.
Seek professional help
Don’t be afraid to talk to a physician or therapist. Your family doctor is a great resource to use, and often, they can refer you to a therapist or psychiatrist. If you live on campus and can’t see your doctor, check out your student health service or search to see if your school offers a counseling center.
It’s OK to say no
Sometimes you just don’t want to go to an event or party or just “out”, and that’s okay! Doing the "socially acceptable" thing and being likable is not worth sacrificing your happiness. Don’t feel bad for saying no when you just aren’t feeling it; just make sure that you don't get in a habit of declining every time!
Ignore the stigma
Medication may be something that you don’t think you need, but in some cases, it can be a helpful tool until you are “back on your feet”. Although there is no pressure to start taking a medication, it is a nice bit of comfort. Anxiety medication “takes the edge off” in a healthy way; people with anxiety that struggle and don’t use medication or other resources may start “treating” their problem using drugs, eating disorders, or other self-harm.
Find a healthy outlet
The importance of finding an outlet to relive stress, unwind, and enjoy life cannot be overstated. Maybe you love shopping, running, reading, or playing music- well its time to reacquaint yourself with a hobby, activity, or fun pastime! Find something to make you smile, laugh, or just feel good!
Depression, too? That’s normal!
Often, anxiety has close ties with other disorders such as depression. You may suffer from severe or mild cases of each, but having both is not uncommon! In fact, if you choose to take an anti-anxiety medication, many also double as an antidepressant.
Practice Self Care
You know the feeling: it’s finals, your chapter has a big philanthropy event, and you have a crazy work schedule- all in the same week. You are doing okay until you wonder: when was the last time I ate? How long have I been wearing this outfit? Did I even shower this week? This scenario is so common and probably the reason why we find ourselves getting sick around this time; remember the importance of taking care of yourself. Chances are, if you manage your time correctly, you have enough time to sit down to eat, shower, and relax, if only for a few minutes.
Slow down
As anyone with anxiety knows, your mind never seems to slow down. Irrational fears or thoughts are constantly spinning in your head at the most inconvenient times like during an exam or when you are trying to sleep. While it is easier said than done, make a conscious effort to stop, take a few slow breaths, and work to calm your thoughts. Try practicing mindfulness, a practice of living in the moment and being aware of your thoughts and emotions. Learn more here
Love and Accept Yourself
Anxiety does not define you!
