As A College Senior, Graduation Puts A Lot Into Perspective

From A Second-Semester College Senior, Graduation Puts A Lot Into Perspective

Focus on the things that you did with passion, and focus on the things that made you when they very truly could have broken you.

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Recently, my friends and I thought back over the past four years and wondered if we could go back in time and do it all over again, would we?

No, was my instinctive response. And while my friends talked about how they would go back and change things, I realized that I really wouldn't. Maybe do a few things earlier, but no.

This is not to say that my collegiate life has been flawless and perfect, but rather, imperfectly flawed, as I like to think of it. A lot has happened in my four years... a lot. I went through things that I never wanted to go through, I saw my friends get hurt, I lost friends, gained some, and experienced a roller coaster of things during my time here at Miami University.

But all of those things — the really utterly terrible, the bad, not-so-bad, and good — brought me to who I am today. And I feel pretty powerful. I can talk about the trauma that I've experienced and fight for things to change so that others never have to go through what I went and still am going through. I can talk about how you can feel like the least powerful person on the planet because you saw something that triggered you and made you think, even if only for a split second, that your life was terrible and not worth living. I can talk about how scared some things make me because I am terrified of small silver cars, people who look like my rapist, and I'm even afraid of studying history sometimes, which really, really sucks.

Now, college wasn't all bad! I found the love of my life in the most unsuspecting place when I needed him the most. I found friends who have been through hell with me and still support me and push me to be the best I can be.

If you're just getting into college, or you've spent some time there already, my biggest advice is to do everything with passion. If you can't go to that spring break trip, or studying abroad just wasn't in the cards for you, don't look back and focus on those losses. Focus on the things that you did with passion, and focus on the things that made you when they very truly could have broken you.

You're in college for a reason, so don't take anything for granted. Ask questions, attend that free event, go get that free food your apartment complex hosts, but most importantly don't let yourself hold you back. If you don't have the money to do it, then focus on the stuff you can do. I couldn't afford a study abroad or spring break, but I spent my time baking, cooking and painting — all of which I never really knew I could do.

It's a lot easier to say this looking back on my years, but recognize what can be made the best of your experience, and do it. Don't be afraid.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.

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My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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10 Tips To Prepare For Your Freshman Year Of College

Tips and tricks for college freshman year.

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Obviously, I am not an expert on college life yet, being that I am only a high school senior. Barely hanging on these last couple weeks of school. I have been preparing for my freshman year of college since the start of my senior year. It is an overwhelming, stressful process and it takes a lot of preparation and time to get it all done. I wanted to give some tips and advice on how I started my process and how I have gotten through it. Starting a new chapter can be really scary, especially if you have no idea what you are doing, I am the oldest sibling in my family, and I am the first to go through this crazy process called college. Though I was uncertain exactly what I needed to do and how to do it, I figured it out and here's how I did it.

1. Have a planner

This is going to be your best friend. It helps you keep your life organized (or at least it makes you feel like you do) and assures you that you meet deadlines. Since I can remember I have always used a planner and it helps me so much. I wouldn't know what to do without it. I have all the dates for when things need to be turned in- like housing and such, and also I have up to when classes start next fall. A planner is so helpful and would recommend getting one if you don't have one already.

2. Talk to friends about their experience

This has honestly been one of the top life savors. I have gotten so much advice from my friends that are in college and they give me the inside scoop and what to do and what not to do.

3. Do your research

Research the school, research clubs and activities that you may be interested in. Get familiar with what is on and off campus.

4. Visit the campus

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I am lucky enough that I am only an hour and a half away from campus and it doesn't take long to get there so I just go when I feel like it. But visiting and being on campus several times defiantly has made me feel more comfortable and more at ease than I would be if I had not visited at all.

5. Embrace times with friends and family

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This is the last summer with you In your house as a full time member. Embrace it! Be with your friends and family as much as you can. You are going to miss them just as much as you are going to miss them.

6. Start doing things on your own

I am already pretty independent but I struggled like starting to make my own dinners because I have been fortunate enough where my parent always took care of dinner. But now they are making me responsible for making my own dinner. Which was a really tough life altering thing for me. It may not seem like it but it was for me. But start doing your own laundry. making your own dinner, getting things yourself etc.

7. Make list

This and my planner have been my saving grace. If I didn't have it there was going to be no progress on the thing called college.

8. Manage your time

This is pretty self explanatory, there is a lot to do during the college process. Be sure not to procrastinate and know when things are due so you can get everything on time.

9. Take summer classes if needed

If you know you are going to be behind in a class, take some summer classes. For example, I am a little behind in math, and I have to take all the way up to college algebra in order to graduate college. Well, I knew I didn't want to take math all four years of college and I knew I was behind. So I am taking some summer courses to not only finish with math earlier but just to be ahead of the game.

10.  Gather everything you need for college!

Make sure you have everything you need for the big day. Set apart some days before move in day to take time and pack whatever you may need so you don't forget anything.

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