College Relationships As Told By Rom Coms

The Ups And Downs Of College Relationships, As Told By Your Most Binge-Worthy Romantic Comedies

Many students can relate to characters in films where finding love is both a challenging and hilarious quest.

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There are many crazy and funny moments that happen during college. Making friends, networking with possible future employers, and developing new relationships is part of the experience at any university. There is no doubt the journey to finding love is exciting, stressful, and fun. Here are 10 moments when characters in romantic comedies perfectly described college relationships.

1. When asked if you want to go with a friend to an event that you do not like

At some point during your time at college, you will be invited to a party, recreational activity, or university event by a classmate or close friend. Although they are interested in wanting to hang out, the feelings that you have (depending on how you feel about the person or the location of the activity) might not be the same. If you do not feel comfortable or interested in spending time with this person, do not act like mean girls, and just politely decline.

2. That moment when you cannot understand how a girl really feels about you

It is simple for girls to have conversations with each other since they seem more comfortable sharing their emotions and secrets with other girls. However, when a guy is talking with a girl, it is more difficult trying to comprehend how they really feel. While girls are beautiful inside and out, smart, talented, and hardworking, they are also hard to understand at times. Asking questions (nothing too personal) and sharing memories that made you happy, upset, and scared are the best ways to get to know a girl. Revealing the ugly truth and developing a connection might lead to a long-term relationship.

3. When you go on a date to a new restaurant and you are asked how the food is

It is difficult being honest when it comes to going someplace for the first time, especially for a date. Whether it is a restaurant, movie, or another event, you will usually pretend that everything is good so you do not upset the person that is with you (unless everything was amazing) and continue with the conversation. This might look like a friendship, but it could be love actually, and having funny or awkward moments is part of building a strong relationship.

4. When you meet a girl for the first time and tell her a story, joke, or pick up line

Approaching a girl can be stressful at first because you do not want to say or do something embarrassing. Since making a girl laugh is a key factor, this will make guys want to impress her with a story, joke, or pick up line (be careful with that one) to get a smile or chuckle. While learning about the tips and advice in order to win a girl's attention and heart is a result of crazy, stupid, love (being yourself is also a good option), having meaningful conversations and finding similar interests is one of the best ways to develop a connection with a girl.

5. The moment when you really like someone but they only see you as a friend

While hanging out with or speaking with a person that you like spending your time with (and want to further your relationship with), it is possible that you might get put in the terrifying friendzone. In order get out of this place, it will require impressing her with your intelligence and personality. Being motivated, acting positive, and treating the other person with respect might cause her to see you as more than just a friend. Valentine's Day is a good opportunity to express how you feel via a card or gift (do not just use text or emojis) and let them know you want to spend the holiday with them. If things go well, start looking for a place to go on dates.

6. When you are talking to your crush and finally admit your feelings for them

There will be a time during a friendship where you will admit to your crush the feelings that you have. After hanging out with them for a while (going to movies or events on campus), this is something that will be brought up at some point. The reaction that you will get in response will be different. This all depends on how you treated each other as friends and whether or not you showed interest in the other person. Either the relationship will go off without a hitch or you will experience some problems, but it does not hurt to try anyway.

7. That feeling when you get when your crush sends you a text message

College students are always connecting with each other on social media. They try finding their friends on Facebook and keeping track of each other's lives via Instagram or Snapchat. However, getting a message response from someone you really like is a blessing. While getting their phone number, planning dates, and maintaining a relationship is no easy A, this is a challenge that you might consider not giving up on.

8. Realizing you made plans to have lunch but you both cannot decide where

After making plans to have lunch with your crush, there is a problem that might occur when seeing them in person, minutes or an hour after sending a text to confirm. If you are on campus and then decide to meet them at a certain location before heading somewhere to eat, one of the things you might stress over is choosing where to go. Try to understand each other's interests and needs before coming to a reasonable solution (also remember to write them down in a notebook or reminder in your phone) because learning to overcome disagreements is part of strengthening a possible relationship.

9. The moment when you find out that your crush likes animals

After having a long and meaningful conversation with someone who you want to know more about and discovering that they also love animals (does not matter which type), then this is certainly some good news. In some relationships, potential significant others must love dogs or cats, but it is not mandatory. This is a great subject to discuss because if you have a pet you can talk about their names, the breed, and fun facts about them. If there is a park in the area, perhaps you can bring your dogs there. Not only are animals cute, but they could also play a role in jump-starting a relationship.

10. When you find out that someone you like is not ready for a new relationship

You must always be prepared if the person you like went through a breakup and is not ready to begin a new relationship. The best thing you can do is wish them well, but remain friends with the person, and hope that you can develop chemistry over time. It might be difficult at first to accept rejection, but the important thing is that you tried and can learn that everything will okay. Even though it might feel like 500 days of summer, the weeks we have off from college does go by fast, and using this time, especially during the spring and summer (if you are not already graduating) to improve as a human being will be beneficial, and perhaps the person who might not have seemed interested in you before might have a different change of heart the next time they see you.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

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They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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Ladies, Stop Trying To Teach Boys How To Be Your Man If They're Not Even Men In The First Place

It is your job to love him. But it is not your job to teach him how to love you back.

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I see. this way too often, honestly it upsets me and breaks my heart. It breaks my heart when I see a girl begging her boyfriend to put her on her Snapchat story. It breaks my heart when I see a girl begging her boyfriend to get off a video game and spend time with her. It breaks my heart when I see a girl doodling on a napkin at the dinner table and her boyfriend is on his phone and hasn't even looked up at her once. These things break my heart because this girl, whoever she may be, maybe it is you? She deserves a man. What she has though, is a boy. And before you say anything, yes, there is a huge difference.

I was that girl once. I begged and begged my ex-boyfriend all the time to put me on his Snapchat story. You may be reading this and be thinking "Wow she's a little attention seeking." No, that is not it at all. A simple act of being posted about made me feel special, loved, missed at times, and served as reassurance and a word of affirmation for me. Do you want to know something silly? Maybe you've done it too. Sometimes I would do something crazy to get his attention. Something funny, and silly and random just so he would post me on his story and I wouldn't have to ask.

At the dinner table, I was that girl that while he was on his phone I was sliding him notes on a napkin saying "I love you" or "Hi" or funny jokes to get his full and undivided attention.

At home, I was the girl that used to literally throw myself at him while he was playing video games to try and get him to press pause for two minutes and pay attention to me and have a conversation with me.

You see, I was that girl. But I refuse to ever be that girl again. If you are that girl, stop what you're doing.

It is your job to love him. But it is not your job to teach him how to love you back.

There is a big difference between a boy and a man. Contrary to what society may believe most boys don't actually turn into men until they are almost 40. Scary for us girls right? But here's the kicker and to be honest it has nothing to do with age.

Any boy that is in the process of becoming a man and maturing is going to know how to treat a woman. He is not going to choose video games or his phone over you. He is going to post you everywhere all the time because he wants to show you off to the world and make you feel special. He isn't going to ever leave you wondering.

The list could really go on comparing and contrasting the differences between a boy and a man but the important ones to remember when you are in a relationship are:

1. A boy thinks "me." A man thinks "us"

2. A boy gives false promises. A man honors his commitments (one being you.)

3. A boy cares about how you look in jeans. A man cares about how you look in his future.

4. You will always wonder how a boy feels about you. You will always know how a man feels about you.

All too often I see girls in the act of this. It is almost like they are training a dog or raising a child. They order them around and become demanding when it comes to doing things that make them feel special, validated and reassured. Granted, they are doing this because their relationship is lacking something but the truth is, it shouldn't be lacking something in the first place.

You are dating a boy not a man. I hate to break that to you. I really do. It's the hardest news you'll ever receive. Why? Well because

You can't fix him, you can't teach him, and you can't change a boy into a man. They have to do it on their own

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