College Is Not An Excuse To Lose Your Self-Respect

College Is Not An Excuse To Lose Your Self-Respect

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It's Thursday night. You're waiting to get into the bar and you take in the scenery around you. There's a girl bent forward into a trash can emptying the contents of her stomach, while her friend is across the street squatting next to a bush with her skirt around her ankles. There's a boy flailing his body around yelling at the bouncer through slurred words, while his other friend shoves his tongue down some equally trashed girl's throat. And let me tell you something, we've all been there, I've been there. But there are people that are there every. single. weekend. And I'm not trying to belittle you or judge you if you are "that girl" or "that guy", but instead maybe open a few eyes on the importance of keeping a sound self-respect, especially in college.

Everyone wants respect but not everyone respects themselves. And it is so evident in the actions of so many college kids around me honestly it's overwhelming. We are so close to adulthood, barely toes deep in it, but we are, for all intensive purposes, adults. We enter college at the legal age of 18 years old. And we quickly realize as that girl from our English class is getting handcuffed to the side of a cop car, that we aren't minors anymore and our actions have repercussions. And we see her the next week showing her mugshot to all her friends and laughing it off, but that is embarrassing. You lost control. You showed everyone that you find it funny to vomit all over the dance floor and argue with a cop. But do you ever stop to think that one day you're probably going to have a daughter that might act the exact same way if you don't start respecting yourself? Because you can't teach true self-respect if you don't have any. And don't think for a second that this is only a problem based around girls. Boys need it almost more. Because they're taught their whole life that boys will be boys. And that they can just ride the wave of a double-standard for the majority of college, while calling girls derogatory names when they've probably slept with more people than she has.

But here is where the issue lies. What is a boy with a mind shaped from social media and society, supposed to call a girl who throws herself at every guy every weekend, throws up all over at every party, and her clothes are half off her body by the end of the night, every time. Certainly not a grown woman. Because grown woman do not act like that. Does your grandmother? Does your mother? They are grown. And this is not me slut-shaming. This is me raising awareness to the girls that wonder why they don't attract the decent boys. Respect yourself. You are a woman. And you're working towards being grown. And it is hard sometimes in a place like college to not over do it every once in a while. But respect yourself enough to know that you don't want people to have to walk over you when you're passed out on the floor. Because let me tell you something, boys notice when you have self-respect. They love a girl with confidence and a girl that knows she's worth it. But here is where boys need to understand something. Just because a girl is wearing a low cut shirt or a tight dress does not mean you have the right to her body just because she is showing it off. Would you want some 20-year-old scrub pawing at your little sister just because you could see her cleavage? Guess what, cleavage is often inevitable and its not a turn on for you to ask to do a "boob luge" off of me because I "wouldn't wear that shirt if I didn't want you to." Understand that we're all somebody's daughter and sister just the same as you are somebody's son and brother. If you wouldn't want someone treating your loved one that way, don't treat someone else's like that.

And this all comes full circle when you respect yourself. Because when you respect yourself you are more open to the respect of others. She's face down on the couch and your friend tells you to go hit that? You're better than that, go find the girl that managed to stay upright throughout the night. Your friend tells you to write "Rush __ Fraternity" on your bare chest with your smiling face in it? If you're not prepared for your grandfather or boss to see that, take a hard pass on that one. It's not trendy to be trashy, no matter what anyone tells you, you will always be able to have fun while remaining true to your standards and respecting yourself.



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1. Take as many AP or IB exams as you can in high school and score well on them

If you score well enough on these tests, you could potentially get out of certain classes in college. It doesn't seem like a big deal in high school, but when you are in college, taking the least number of classes as possible to graduate is the goal (at least for me).

2. Math and science classes in college are nothing like they are in high school

Calculus and general chemistry were the worst classes I have taken in college. Do not take them in the same semester as a freshman. If you don't have to take them, don't. These are two classes that if you could AP test out of them in high school, DO IT.

3. You do not need to know your major before entering college

I went to college undecided. I decided that I needed to take a wide range of classes to figure out what I actually wanted to major in. I started college aspiring to go to dental school, and now, I'm studying communications and fashion. And I'm still graduating on time!

4. Making friends may not be as easy as people say

I know this might sound scary, but I am just preparing you. People love to bombard college freshmen with the idea that everyone on your floor will be your absolute best friend for life. They love to tell you that you will never feel lonely. Your floormates may not be destined to be your best friends. You will feel lonely at times, and it is okay.

Friends will never just come to you. In college, especially at a large university, you really have to be outgoing to find friends. Even when you do find your "squad," you have to remember that these people have not known you your entire life, like your friends from home. Your new "friends" could leave you at bars, ditch you for someone else, and do sketchy stuff to you that your friends from home would never do because frankly, they've only known you for a couple weeks or months.

5. You probably won't get straight A's

Classes in college are weird. In some classes, your only grades might be made up of two test grades and one group project grade. In other classes, you might have homework almost every night, multiple tests and quizzes, and a curve at the end of the semester. In my time in college, I have realized that the more assignments in a class, the easier it is to get a high grade. The fewer assignments in a class, the harder it is to get a high grade.

6. Rate My Professor is your Bible

Never take a class in college with a professor who has awful ratings on Rate My Professor. You will not do well in their class. I made this mistake with my Calculus class first semester freshman year. I didn't know about the website and ended up taking the class with a teacher rated 1.7 out of 5. A majority of the students failed the class that semester. Always check Rate My Professor.

7. Office hours should be your best friend

This is something that I even have to work on myself. But honestly, go to your professors' office hours. You will be able to get questions answered and will be on their good side. This is how you get those A's!

8. Look both ways before crossing the street, ESPECIALLY if you are wearing headphones

As a college student, you will feel invincible, especially when crossing the street. Please look both ways. We don't need anyone being hit. It happens, more than you think. So please look both ways, especially when you have headphones in!

9. You don't have to be best friends with your freshman roommate

It can be very exciting when you go to your school's Facebook page and finally find someone to be your roommate. Many incoming freshmen have a tendency to put A TON of pressure on this roommate relationship. If you and your new roomie get along super well and you want to spend a lot of time together, that's great! But it is totally normal to need space from that person because let's face it, you are living in a box with them. Some freshmen roommates end up being best friends, some end up being just friends, some end up being acquaintances, and so on and so forth. All of those are perfectly okay!

10. College really is not as hard as everyone says it is

"College students have no time to live." "How are you still standing if you are a COLLEGE STUDENT?!" "Now I know that you are a college student and you're really busy but..." At first, college might seem very overwhelming, but you will quickly get a hang of it. If you can prioritize your assignments, you will be okay. You won't be cramming to write a 10-page paper in a 2 hour period unless you are an insane procrastinator. I know people that have full-time jobs, go to college, and still manage to have fun on the weekends. It is possible, you just have to make succeeding a priority!

11. You might not need a textbook for a certain class, even if your professor insists you will

Renting your books from Amazon or another similar website is the best way to get your books in college. A lot of the time you won't even need a textbook for a class, even if your professor insists you will. Wait to rent before you actually have an assignment that you absolutely need the book for. No need to waste money on something you don't need.

12. Get involved

You're only in college for 4 years, so make the most of it. Getting involved could mean playing an intermural sport, joining a club, joining a sorority or fraternity, etc. Now maybe you think you are too cool for these things, but these are great ways to get your mind off of school and to make friends that have similar interests as you!

13. The boys/girls in your freshmen class will still be as immature as the people you went to high school with

One summer doesn't change many people. Many freshmen students expect to come to college and all of a sudden be surrounded by mature people that they could potentially marry. But the reality is, many of these people are still young and immature. Let's face it, if your main goal in college is to find your husband/wife in those 4 years anyway, we need to find you a better goal.

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