"Our views of sex are misshapen by the plethora of opposing messages we see every day. Our parents tell us not to have sex. The media shows us that teens have sex all the time, from casual hookups to committed couples. We are told to wait until marriage, but to be safe. We assume so many of our peers are 'sexually active,' as adults call it, but how many of us are actually having sex?"
Let alone, how many are there who have never had sex?
Dear ____ The Virgin,
It is safe to say that you struggle daily with understanding the concepts described above. Thusly,
LETS TALK ABOUT SEX, BABY.
Yes, we will be talking about that infamous three letter word which you have chosen to abstain from.
Be not ashamed of this small detail, for you should be quite proud of this accomplishment.
There are far and few people who are able to admit to such an intimate part of their personal life.
Here's to you.
"Being a Virgin in this day and age is something to be proud of, you're like a unicorn." - Shirley, from Community
It may seem as though you are the only person left on this planet who is still a virgin.
However, believe me when I say that this perception is completely false.
Statistically speaking, 25% of all college students are virgins.
Therefore, you are not alone.
"While the world mocks you for your inexperience, God is smiling at you for your strength." - Jonathan Bartell
There is a substantial amount of stigma surrounding being a virgin, especially in college.
Jokes may be thrown at you along the way, but keep a positive mind.
Remain true to who you are, and do not let others discourage you.
If you have been raised to wait to have sex until marriage, then by all means, stick to that value.
"Cinderella lost her slipper, not her virginity. You do not need to have sex to find your prince."
No boy, no matter how incredible he may seem, is worth changing your standards or beliefs for.
If he does not respect your choice or tries to force sex upon you; walk away from the relationship or situation and report him.
In the end, you will be thankful that you did.
Remember, consent is sexy.
"I wish I was a virgin again. The only fun I ever had was holding out." -Clare Luce
You should never be subjected into feeling as though you must have sex in order to fit in.
I will be the first to tell you that girls, whom you meet in college, will be envious of your conscious decision to wait.
There are many whom wish they could take back losing their virginity.
Especially, if they lost it to a one night stand.
"Never settle for less than you deserve."
No matter how tempting that boy on your floor may seem, loosing your virginity to him is definitely not worth the heartbreak that you will bound to experience afterwards.
At this age, boys are stupid.
It is safe to note they will say anything to get in your pants.
Have the courage to say no.
"Your naked body should only belong to those who fall in love with your naked soul." - Charlie Chaplin
One day, the right man will come into your life.
A man whom is interested in learning every last detail about you and loves not only your body, but that of your brain and soul.
It will be then when you are reminded as to why you chose to abstain from having sex in the first place.
I promise you that on that day, it will definitely be worth the wait.
