Going to a college that thrives on diversity and different personalities it has become crystal clear that everything that I thought was important back in high school was crap. The amount of time and energy that people spend on trying to fit into categories is amazing. Things like being popular and wanting to be liked by everyone is no longer an important issue like it was back in high school. No one cares if you were the school nerd or the cheer captain, because everyone's to busy to care.
In college people are free from labels and can go find themselves.
One of the challenges people face when finally being free from restrictions of school is sexuality. Some people may judge you for wanting to see what is on the other side of the fence. Some people may give you looks when you start asking questions about it. Sexuality is one of those things that not a lot of people care to talk about because it can be uncomfortable. People do not like change and when it comes to questioning themselves it is even more so.
The thing is that you cannot not do something because others will judge you for it. If you choose to live your life according to other people's rules you will not be happy. This is not an opinion it is a well known fact. People should not have to suppress themselves in order to make people around them happy. Either the people in your life will accept it and move on or leave.
You have to be happy with yourself before anything and everyone else.
If you decide that you want to go and experiment with the same sex, opposite sex, and or both just know that it is okay. You do not have to feel like you are doing something wrong, because you are not. It is okay to wonder and want to know if those feelings could mean that you are not one hundred percent straight. Do not feel bad about being honest with yourself and living life the way that you want to.
Now, you might wonder if you have to pick a category right away. The answer is no take time and patience to fully understand yourself. This does not just go out to sexuality it also goes out for everything in life. It can take people years before they finally admit to themselves let alone close loved ones. However, it might not take years to figure out what and who you like and you can go to the top of the mountain and shout it out. Whenever you decide to put a label on it, just know it will great and you will have people in your corner.
Life is fleeting guys and we do not have a lot of time on earth. Stop trying to deflect and go out and live. Maybe you will be better for it. So why not go and kiss that guy or girl?
