Choose The Guy:

Let me start off by saying that we are not perfect people, but we can find the perfect person. Confused? Probably, because I was too.

It took me many years, many heart breaks, and many lessons before I found the person that I could see myself spending the rest of my life with. I know a lot of people will say you're too young to know what love is, or that we are rushing things, that we need to take our time because there is a lot of other "things" out there. But, to be honest with you, I don't want to do those other "things" without him beside me doing them with me.

So let me begin, choose the guy who is down for you, only you. Might sound cheesy but do it. Yes, he can have other females in his life, but there's a balance and there is a boundary. You are his first priority (behind family of course, eventually you will be family to them as well) but you can't be mad at him if there is a girl in his life that has been there for him as a friend for years. I'm positive you have a male in your life that has been there for you. Now, you can get jealous, upset, mad, but you can not ask him to get rid of her. Choose the guy that knows that you're relationship is just as important as those around him. Choose the guy that puts you in an important place in his life and cherishes you like you are the best thing that has happened to him.

Second, choose the guy who will love you and give you what you need unconditionally. Relationships are not wrapped around presents and buying things for one another ALL THE TIME. Shower your girl with love, cuddles, massages, and cute text messages. It doesn't take a lot. But, seriously, choose the guy who will go out of his way to put a smile on your face. Choose the guy who knows when you need your back rubbed or plays with your hair because he knows you love it. Choose the guy who would go out of his way to buy you your favorite food and coffee and surprise you at work when you're a having one of the worst days. Choose the guy that can tell just by one text that you are not okay and that you need him to be there.

Lastly, choose the guy who may not be the best looking, the goofy one, the one with the good personality, the one who loves his family, has a head on his shoulders, and truly and honestly respects you for you. Choose the guy who is there for you, every time you need him. Choose the guy that knows sometimes it's okay not to see each other every day but still makes the effort so you know that you are loved and missed. Choose the guy who would sleep on the floor after an argument because he knows you "need your space". Choose the guy who knows you up and down, inside and out. Choose that guy.

You'll find him. I promise. When you do, cherish him, keep him, love him, spoil him with affection and attention. Show him that you are the girl he needs to choose too.

It's an amazing feeling having that connection with someone that you have never had before. You don't know what real love is until you start dating the person who is not only your significant other but your best friend.