Now, I’m going to be sharing from my heart something I struggle with, and I know I am not the only one who does. This is a topic which just about every woman has struggled with, reads articles about, writes blogs about, prays to God about it, but yet still worries about this one specific subject. It is something which most every woman yearns for. A desire in our hearts. The desire you ask? A man.
Not just any man, but the most perfect guy out there. We start to ask ourselves, “Does he even exist?” I’ve been at Bible college for the past three years of my life, and I’ll be honest. I’ve struggled with this from day one. We all have this same feeling of wanting a guy in our life to ‘feel complete.’ Let me break it down to you. If we, as women, are searching for completeness in a man, there is a reason God hasn’t given us one yet. One imperfect human being who sins is not going to ‘complete’ another imperfect human being who sins just as much. But, let’s say you’re a science lover and you’re thinking, “Wait, two negatives equals a positive though?” Yes. This is true, but just because it may equal a positive, does not make it correct does it? Too many times we think that another person is going to make us happy, which in the long run he may, but is that where we are seeking for our true happiness? In another person? What’s the point of our relationship with Christ then? We need to start prioritizing.
For the past few years I have been encouraged by this one quote referring to a guy/girl relationship: “Never chase after a guy. Continue to be the good godly girl that you are, and the right guy will come around.” It is a beautiful reminder to us that God has it all under control, and we need to keep being the sacred daughters of our King. If after all you are trying to act like someone else just so a guy will like you, then he won’t even be appreciating the real you. God made YOU unique and one of a kind.
While my anxious heart worries and starts imagining who that special someone is going to be, I was encouraged by a friend with these few verses. I hope they can be an encouragement to you as they were for me.
Psalm 25:3-5 – Indeed, none of those who wait for you will be ashamed. Those who deal treacherously without cause will be ashamed. Make me know Your ways, O Lord. Teach me Your paths. Lead me in Your truth and teach me. For You are the God of my salvation. For You I wait all the day.
Psalm 33:16-22 – The king is not saved by a mighty army, a warrior is not delivered by great strength. A horse is a false hope for victory. Nor does it deliver anyone by its great strength. Behold, the eye of the Lord is on those who fear Him, on those who hope for His lovingkindness. To deliver their soul from death, and to keep them alive in famine. Our soul waits for the Lord. He is ur help and our shield. For our heart rejoices in Him, because we trust in His holy name. Let your lovingkindness, O Lord, be upon us, according as we have hoped in You.
Psalm 40:1-3 – I waited patiently for the Lord, and He inclined to me and heard my cry. He brought me up out of the pit of destruction, out of the miry clay, and He set my feet upon a rock making my footsteps firm. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to or God. Many will see and fear and will trust in the Lord.
Psalm 62:5-8 – My soul, wait in silence for God only, for my hope is from Him. He only is my rock and my salvation, my stronghold; I shall not be shaken. On God my salvation and my glory rest; the rock of my strength, my refuge is in God. Trust in Him at all times, O people. Pour out your heart before Him. God is a refuge for us.
For lack of space, the other two references are Romans 8:18-25 and Philippians 3:12-21. I hope these verses can be an encouragement for you as a reminder of God’s promises. When we place Him first in our lives above all else, and are living obedient lives unto Him, the right person will come along at the right time. Our job is to remain faithful to God. When we are loving Him and others, everything else will not seem as strenuous. He is the only Man we need to be seeking after. So, stop worrying about whoever ‘he’ may be. God’s got it all planned out. Keep being the godly woman you are. Let everything else fall where it may. Remember, your Heavenly Father has you well taken care of.
