Have you ever had a break up without even dating?

You know, those people who you get super involved with but never officially have a title?

Everyone knows you're "dating" or "talking" but nothing has never been established or never was?

Or that you both said you aren't looking for anything serious but like one another?

I'd like to believe that everything happens for a reason and every person you meet has a purpose.

However, it was extremely puzzling meeting someone who I could not find a purpose for.

In some ways, "breaking up" with someone you were never really in a relationship with is disappointing, AF. You go through just about everything that you would in a regular relationship.

It starts out normal, you're talking, you hang out, you do stuff together.

Then the question arises of, "where is this going?"

Then things get complicated. One person-or both starts catching feelings.

Then the "talk" happens. You finally have a serious conversation after avoiding anything serious in whatever you both have with one another.

Feelings are talked about and the decision is made — they are just not ready.

What the hell does this mean?

The purpose of this relationship was never clear. You did everything couples do; hold hands, kiss, cuddle, make sarcastic roasts to one another, play fight, you might've even met this person's parents.

But it never goes anywhere. You can see yourself being with this person but you know that it would suck if they weren't on the same page as you, or you know that you came into this knowing that it wouldn't go into anything serious.

It's over now, you don't really talk to one another much. You try to avoid seeing them because you don't know whether to say hi or not if you do end up running into each other. It's almost like it never even happened... whatever "it" was.

It's annoying how we can go through these "breakups" with people who we were never truly dating. It feels like time was wasted. You had been hoping for something to come out of this.

Whatever your situation is, I have some advice for you.

Have that "talk", ASAP.

Nothing is more disappointing than waiting for the other person to be straight up about how they feel. If you're scared you're gonna end up unhappy with their responses to where this is going — you probably should or should have ended the "relationship" already.

Make sure you know what you're getting into.

Sometimes — well, most times — it's all fun and games 'til you've caught the "feels." If you know this was just a fling, keep it just a fling. In the end, if one person catches the feels and the other could care less, you done got yourself in a sh*tty situation now.

Once you're done — stay done!

DO NOT MOVE BACKWARDS. Once it is established that this thing is over, let it be over! You're only hurting yourself more going back to your blast from the past. The best thing you can do is move forward. If it meant to be, it will be. For now, focusing on the future is more important than letting yourself fall back in the same spot you were before.

You deserve to be happy. Eventually you'll find someone who is ready for you. Patience is key, but for now, focus on yourself.