It's OK If You Didn't Rush, But You Don't Get To Blame False Sorority Stereotypes

It's OK If You Didn't Rush, But You Don't Get To Blame False Sorority Stereotypes

Go into it with an open mind, and you'll be amazed what you can get out of the Greek experience.

For many college students across the country, Greek rush season is at its height. Whether it be for a sorority, fraternity, professional or multicultural frat, there are so many different offerings of Greek communities that there is something out there for everyone.

I recently came across an article of one writer's reasoning behind not rushing a sorority — I looked at it to hear someone's legitimate beliefs or thoughts about Greek recruitment, but I instead found an article essentially bashing and stereotyping women in the Greek community, grouping all of us into one demeaning box that seemed based more on movies or TV show representations rather than actual sorority women.

Now, I'm sure there are a select few organizations that may be vain or more closely resemble movie settings, but the vast majority of sororities that I've interacted with are the exact opposite. On my campus, the Panhellenic community is full of women who care about their sisters, their academics, their community and are so much than what the stereotypes proclaim.

I have sorority sisters who are future doctors, future politicians, future businesswomen, and so many other amazing professions that this university and organization is just a starting point.

Don't believe that sorority girls are ditzy blondes with fake majors just coasting through college on their daddy's dime. Most of the women in my organization work to pay their own dues (sometimes multiple jobs to support their position in the sorority as well as other college expenses).

They also have intense majors that require constant studying and grad or med school considerations and are using the Greek platform to expand their network and add on to collegiate extracurriculars. Personally, I've maintained a 4.0 and 18 credits while actively participating and holding a position for my sorority.

Sororities aren't just about the parties or "fraternizing" with the fraternities, but about building relationships that can lead to strong, deeply rooted friendships or future job opportunities or philanthropic efforts that better people far beyond ourselves. Greek organizations don't support respective charities just because they have to, but because many of them specifically joined that organization because the charity they support they're extremely passionate about.

If you're on the fence about rushing or feel judged by friends or family about your decision to rush, ask if their feelings are rooted in stereotypes or misconceptions. If you have questions, don't be afraid to reach out to the President or various Vice Presidents of the sorority or Panhellenic community that you're interested in. You want to go into the experience with a full understanding of everything you're about to partake in, and you want to make sure that the decision is right for you.

My most important note is that most of the Greek women I know are breaking the typical stereotypes of who and what a sorority woman is. If you have any interest in going Greek, reach out, ask questions, and most importantly, do what makes you happy. Go into it with an open mind, and you'll be amazed what you can get out of the Greek experience.

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10 Things You'll Recognize If You Grew Up In A Small Town

Those stop signs were more like suggestions.

Whether you're from the Northwest or Southeast, all small towns share basically the same characteristics.

From hanging out at car washes to eating endless meals at that Mexican restaurant, if you're from a small town, you'll probably relate to one (if not all) of these things:

1. Yes, that Mexican restaurant.

Whether you came here to eat after ball games or simply came because there was nothing better to do, you probably spent way to much money on burritos and cheese dip. (For real though, cheese dip was so worth that extra $3).

2. Churches. Churches everywhere.

There seemed to be more churches than people, and everywhere you went one of them was staring you in the face. At least you knew that the whole town was covered on seats when it came to Sunday services.

3. Yep, you hung out at the car wash.

For some odd reason, teenagers like to hang out at the car wash. We don't know why we did, we just did. No car every got cleaned. We just sat on our hoods or tailgates and talked or listened the music. What a wild night.

4. Quick stops.

Gas stations were called quick stops and thank God for those quick stops. You could fill up your tank and get a snack without having to drive 30 minutes to the nearest city. Plus their boiled peanuts were always the bomb. #blessed

5. "Stop" signs.

Those stop signs were more like suggestions. No cop, no stop, right? Same thing with speed limits - merely suggestions.

6. The football field.

Fall Friday nights were made for football games, and there was no getting out of it. Do any of you small town girls really remember going on a Friday night date? Yeah, me neither. Football games were the closest you were going to get to a date on Fridays. You either waited for Saturday or the end of the season. Honestly though, those Friday nights hold some of you and your friends' favorite memories.

7. The good ole grocery store.

Sorry bud, Walmart, Costo, and Kroger were 30 minutes away, and driving to the city was not about to happen. You either went to Shop and Save or Piggly Wiggly for your groceries.

8. "The park."

You either played as a kid, coached a peewee team, refereed as a teenager, or simply watched your siblings play here. No matter the case, you've been to the park, and you're lying if you say you haven't.

9. Those white welcome signs.

Literal *cringe* just looking at it. Passing this sign after coming home from the city meant you were once again stuck in this little town with nothing to do, but you honestly kind of love having nothing to do sometimes.

10. This view.

Sure, there's not a whole lot going on in your small town, but with views like this you can't complain. #NatureIsCool #SoAreSmallTowns

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I'm A Sorority Girl And A ROTC Member, It's The Best Of Both Worlds

Instead of only being in ROTC or only being involved in Greek life, why not be part of both?


I feel like I live a double life. Some weekends I spend going to date parties and sports games. Other weekends, I am stuck in a field doing land navigation and eating MREs (Meals Ready to Eat). A friend once described this lifestyle as having "multiple hats." She explained it as you have a hat for each different part of your life. For example, my main difference is my ROTC and sorority hat.

ROTC stands for Reserve Officer Training Corps. In the short term, this means that I am training to be an Officer in the United States Army. When I graduate college, I will then start my career in the Army. The way I present my "ROTC hat" now is going to determine my career later on. My hat shows me I have to be motivated and strict. My obligations include dedicating my mornings, class time, and extra volunteer hours to ROTC. Being up at 5 a.m. three days a week and taking 21 credit hours my second semester of college is a perfect example of why I have to stay motivated and strict on my self.

Being in a sorority, however, is the perfect breath of fresh air that helps me stay sane. It is a support system and friendship. My sorority helps me realize that college is supposed to be a fun life experience, not just a step in life. My "sorority hat" is carefree and fun. Although I am very busy with my other obligations, my sorority makes it easy to stay involved with date parties and philanthropy events.

In my position, I have been very overwhelmed trying to be successful with every hat I put on. Coming into college, I was very skeptical about sorority recruitment because I was worried about not being able to juggle it all. I am here now finishing up my freshman year of college, so thankful I pushed myself to be completely submerged in involvement. Being as involved as I am has helped me gain best friends as well as great memories.

I have been pushed to the limit these past two semesters, but it shows me what I am capable of. Finishing my freshman year, I am more confident in myself and what I want in life. Having these obligations has helped me develop time management skills. With the help of my two hats, I stay level headed and they have helped me realize that I can be who I want to be. Just because I am in ROTC does not mean I have to fit in a cookie cutter shape of being a cadet, just like being in a sorority does not mean I am a reflection of the stereotype of sorority girls. Just in my first year of college, I have already learned so much from both of these organizations and they have helped me develop into who I am today.

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