Do Boys Face The Same Amount Of Pressure To Have The Perfect Body?

Do Boys Face The Same Amount Of Pressure To Have The Perfect Body?

The media keeps reinforcing the idea of "perfection," no matter how dangerous it is to achieve it.

It is a known fact that girls face a lot of pressure to have the perfect body. From the media constantly shoving that ideal into our faces, to our own peers treating us like we're "less than" if we don't fit their mold, it is no surprise that some girls are literally killing themselves to achieve the perfect body. But do boys face those same problems on the same scale? I know that there is also a male ideal body that's perpetuated in our society but I never really thought it was that big of a problem.

My perspective changed after i watched Buzzfeed's video by the Try Guys called "The Try Guys Get Photoshopped With Men's Ideal Body Types". All the men talked about being "riddled with body insecurity" and wanting to be more muscular because that somehow equals to being more manly.These 4 men that I've always found attractive because of how nice they seem and their sense of humor talked about themselves in such a negative way and it completely broke my heart. I never realized how ridiculous the standards for men have gotten because I didn't think being muscular was that important.

Talking to a few of my male friends about it shed some new light on this issue for me. A friend of mine who's a part of the gay community tells me that there are different degrees of pressure depending on the community. In the gay community, there's definitely a huge pressure to always look perfect. According to him, "you can't be an ugly, fat gay". Another friend explained to me that it is easier to lose weight and be skinny than to build a muscular body. Getting six-pack abs and pecs takes constant physical training that not everybody can endure. Some men even resort to taking steroids and ignoring the risks to achieve that ideal body.

Why do we as a society tell men that they have to be muscular to be manly and attractive? Why do we even have to define what is and isn't manly? In reality, most girls I know don't care that much about that. It's mostly the media that keeps reinforcing what "perfection" is, knowing that the masses will do anything, no matter how dangerous it is, to achieve it. I'm certainly guilty of seeing male celebrities and thinking they're so hot because of how chiseled their bodies are, but the older I get, the more I realize how truly irrelevant that is when it comes to genuinely liking someone.

I know it isn't going to change anytime soon, but I wish we would focus on more important things than what someone's body looks like. There are so many funny, smart, genuine men out there that don't realize how truly great they are because they're so stuck on having the perfect body. Some men do want a muscular body just for themselves and not just to attract their preferred gender. However, we shouldn't make it a standard in our society. People should be able to feel healthy and comfortable in the bodies they're in.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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To The Girl That Doesn't Feel Pretty Enough, Yes, You Are

You don't have to be skinny to be pretty.


With all the technology that has been advancing and social media growing it is hard to not see what everyone else is doing, what everyone else is wearing, etc. Girls now have to grow up constantly worrying about what photo to post, or what new clothes to buy, what trend to follow. It has become hard for girls to be their own personality.

They are constantly being looked at and they know it.

If you are even a pound over the common weight you feel bad about yourself, even if you are five pounds lighter than the common weight you feel bad. No matter how hard you try you never feel pretty enough. You put makeup just to go to class. You beg your parents to buy you the hundred dollar shoes so you fit in. You use the photo editing app to make your pictures look better. You starve yourself just to shave those five pounds before spring break.

We all have tried these things to match everyone's perspective the perfect girl.

However, we don't need to. Who cares if you get that boys attention at the party because of what you're wearing. Who cares if you have the right clothes or the right make-up. Who cares what caption you post with your picture. Being pretty doesn't have to be about what is on the outside.

Your personality is beautiful.

You are wonderfully made. You are special no matter what. Your intelligence. Your beliefs. Your personality. Your culture. Your style. Your confidence. Is what makes you be you. Not what someone wants you to be not. What someone wants you to wear. Not how someone wants you to act.

Be yourself and be loved.

Be the person that you want to be. Be the person that doesn't need acceptance to be happy. Don't worry about what looks back at you in the mirror and worry about what who you want to see. Don't let dirty remarks and mean words bring you down. The small victories are the best. It doesn't matter what the person next to you looks like. All that matters is how you view yourself.

You can do anything you believe.

No matter what anyone says you can do and be anything you want. Doesn't matter what you look like or what you wear. It doesn't matter what you post on social media. It doesn't matter what other people think. Be who you are not what everyone else wants you to be.

You are beautiful no matter what. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Love yourself and be who you are. Don't let anyone treat you any less than what you are worth.

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