Many people view having your boyfriend being your best friend in a negative way.
They think that a relationship and a friendship have to be two separate things. Four years ago, I would have probably agreed. However, I fell in love with my best friend. Since then, I have realized that being best friends with your significant other is not a bad thing, but rather and extremely great thing.
My boyfriend and I became friends before we started dating... so why should that stop? We have been together for four years now, and every day I feel that we grow closer. While I love him and want to be with him forever, it's more than that. He has been my best friend for around four and a half years now, and I could not be more thankful for that.
When I have something that I want to talk about with someone, he is the one that I turn to. Not because I feel like I need to discuss it with him as my boyfriend, but just because I need someone to talk to. He knows all of my secrets and listens to everything I have to say, even the late night weird conversations that only a sleepy brains think of. There is no one in this world who knows more about me than he does and there is no one else in this world that I would rather talk to.
When I want to hang out with someone, he is the first one that comes to mind. Obviously, this is common in a relationship, but I feel that it is different for me. I don't want to hang out and be all "lovey." I want to hang out- watch movies, go to the park, or play video games together. I want to talk about life and rant about irritating things. I want to do all of the things I did with old best friends.
Most relationships get criticism for spending too much time together, but isn't that the point? When you get into a new relationship, you are trying to get to know one another by spending time together, and if everything works out, you become very close, which leads to wanting to spend even more time together. It is natural to be best friends with your significant other, and that leads to a strong relationship.
The only time that is becomes a problem is if you completely lose contact with your other friends and family because you are spending too much time with them. So if your significant other is your best friend, don't let others make you feel bad about it!
