This Is Why I Like Having The 'Mom Gene'

This Is Why I Like Having The 'Mom Gene'

Nurturing is something that comes naturally to me, I just always want to make sure that everyone is having a good time and is comfortable.

Ever since I was a little girl, I had always acted like a mom to my brothers, my friends, and sometimes even my parents. Is it because I think less of them? No, of course not! Researchers are not finding that there is some truth behind this 'mom gene' that some women have and some women do not. I have been taking care of people since I was a child and I grew up not understanding why a woman wouldn't want to be a stay-at-home mother. I used to say that is was my dream career at one point. My parents didn't like that too much and understandably so they wanted me to do something with my life and not have to be dependent on a man. I was persistent, though. I knew it was my destiny.

I am now 20 years old, and though I do not have the dream career of being a stay-at-home mom, it is still something I want to do. Yes, I know feminists hate me, I'm the kind of woman that sets us back a hundred years. I just don't see it that way. I am honestly OK with cooking and cleaning along with taking care of people; I do it all the time. I cannot tell you the number of people—younger, older, and the same age as me—that call me mother. It is something that I have become used to.

In the past 15 years, science is proving that there is something in women's genes that makes them more maternal. These tests have been on mice but through development, we have a lot of similarities in our genes as mice do. Through the study, they had removed the gene fosB from the mice and had them reproduce. These baby mice were dying within a few days even though they and their mothers were healthy. The connected it back to the lack of maternal care from the mothers and the babies who were shivering and alone: "The nurturing defect is likely due to the absence of FosB in the preoptic area, a region of the hypothalamus that is critical for nurturing."

Nurturing is something that comes naturally to me, I just always want to make sure that everyone is having a good time and is comfortable. Making food in my dorm for my friends is not a problem, I'm going to eat some of it anyway so it is a win-win situation. I have also been babysitting since about 12 years old and working with kids in the athletic realm since then too. I am well versed in all ages of childhood as well as the teenage yeas, and young adulthood. I couldn't tell you why I was born with this natural nurturing ability and constant want to take care of everyone around me. Though I cannot explain if the 'mom gene' is really true, science can't say for sure either, I do know that there is a reason that some women are naturally more nurturing than others. The environment might be a part of it, but from young ages, we can see it. Some little girls want to play house and be the mother, others don't want to have imaginary play like that at all; growing up I was like a super mom. I was a mother but I also went on adventures and did things, the best of both worlds I guess.

Unfortunately, some of my friends have a hard time surviving without you there with them. It is OK if I went and spent a bunch of money or did something rather stupid but I am the one to stop everyone else from doing stupid things. I am the mom friend. Always ready to be called upon for late night food runs or if BAND-AIDS and tape are needed. A cramp on the sports field or a hungry stomach in the classroom. You can never be over-prepared, only underprepared. I am open to just listening whenever they need it and I will give advice if they want it. Otherwise, I am just all ears for any problems they are having.

I have a little bit of time before I even think about being an actual mother, but I am OK with that. For now, I just get to use my nurturing skills on those around me. College students often find themselves looking for a mom at school to help them with things since their own mother is no longer there for them. Do I mind? No, not one bit. I love it. Whether the 'mom gene' actually exists or not, there are people in this world born with the natural gift of nurture. Personality might have an effect too, but all that matters is that there are mothers in this world and they do a whole lot for all of us. I might not be a biological mother to anyone yet, but I do feel like a mom a lot of the time. Stand-in mothers help those dependent people who need a motherly figure to take care of them. To all my 'children' out there, love you guys!

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.

Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.

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My Roommate Dressed Me For A Week, And I Have Thoughts

Find you a roomie that will go through your closet to pick out your clothes for five days in a row.


Since I'm a college student, I don't see a point in putting effort into choosing my outfit each day. My go-to outfit is a sweatshirt with ripped jeans and converse. Sometimes I'll wear a nice shirt with a cardigan, but that is rare.

So, when I was going through what I wanted to take back home (since I didn't wear them), I asked for my roommate's approval and she selected a handful of shirts to keep. Since I had gotten rid of half of my clothes, she thought it was a good idea for her to decide what I should wear since I wouldn't do it on my own. Not only was she right, but she actually did it.

For this challenge, I was able to pick out my undergarments, socks, and shoes. My roommate chose my shirt, pants, and accessories.


Christina Stover

Starting the week off, my roommate went with a nice sweater and jeans. I really like the sweater, I just haven't worn it since winter break. Within the first five minutes at my 8 a.m. class, I received a compliment. I thanked them and told her all about how she was picking out my clothes for the week. She laughed and thought that was funny. The sweater was a bit warm, but it was still nice to wear something that I usually wouldn't and get noticed for wearing something different.


Christina Stover

Tuesday was similar to Monday in the sense of a sweater and jeans. I got the sweater for Christmas a few years ago, and it really seems like the kind of thing to wear to church instead of a casual weekday outfit. I really love floral patterns, so I was instantly drawn to this sweater. It makes me feel like a confident adult and that is definitely appreciated. She also picked out the baby blue raindrop necklace in the picture, and it really complimented the darker colors in the sweater. And I wore a pair of jeans that didn't have rips in them for the first time in months.


Christina Stover

A little fancier on this hump day. Wearing a cute dark green shirt with a little knot at the bottom, a cardigan because it's short sleeves and casual leggings. The necklace is an outline of the world's continents. I definitely felt a lot dressier in this outfit as opposed to jeans and sweatshirts. My signature half-up-half-down hairdo pulled the whole outfit together. Again, this is something I would wear to church and not to class. But I think this also helped my confidence and allowed me to come out of my shell a little, which is always a good thing.


Christina Stover

Wearing a crop top in winter is always a power move. I really loved this outfit because not only did it color coordinate, but it was super cute. I had an interview earlier this morning, so I had mascara on, and it made my eyes pop, which was great. And the Army-green button-up shirt really brought the whole outfit together. The shirt says, "Crazy plant lady." Which is exhibited by the pictures of plants on the shirt and the cactus and succulent tapestry in the background. I thought this was one of my favorite outfits, plus I always love an excuse to wear leggings.


Christina Stover

Today, she gave me a little break. I spent the weekend at home, and she gave me a simple long-sleeve that says "Bowling Green" on the back with a huge mandala design, and the iconic ripped jeans. I had an interview this day as well, so my makeup is done again, and I wore a translucent teardrop necklace. The outfit was comfortable and practical for a day of running errands and spending time with family. It has been a while since I've worn this shirt, as well, so I enjoyed spicing things up with such a bright shirt.

Overall, I think this was a fun and exciting little experiment. What started as an assumed joke, turned into a learning experience about myself and my clothing options. I'm not saying that I won't be wearing sweatshirts frequently, but I am saying that it's nice to have options for fancier outfits. Each day we would have a little photo shoot that was funny and extra, but another fun perk of doing this experiment.

Now, in order for this to come full circle, I need to go through her closet and pick out her clothes for a week. That's definitely something for me to look forward to.

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