5 Things Blair Waldorf Has Taught Me About Love & Self-Confidence

5 Things Blair Waldorf Has Taught Me About Love & Self-Confidence

Have a little faith, and if that doesn't work, have a lot of mimosas.

It is a truth universally acknowledged that Blair Waldorf is the strongest woman (character) to ever grace this planet. Despite continually feeling second-best and enduring incessant heartbreak, she remains triumphant, never failing to show her best face and Chloé purse to those of whom she deems worthy. Of course, being Queen B is never an easy endeavor; for there is always someone persistently waiting for the moment you fall from your pedestal. After all, the higher up you are the harder in which you fall back to reality. However, in spite of criticism, Miss. Waldorf has mastered this fall with as much ease as Grace Kelly, an acknowledgment that has forever inspired my inner queen….and all young girls alike with a desire to rule the world.

1. As the queen assures, sometimes a little self-confidence is a good thing, for it shows the world just how much potential you have to offer.

Unfortunately, sometimes people are going to try and belittle your confidence. They refuse to see all the good you have in your heart, and rather, only see you for face value… a strong, beautiful human being. Jealousy will ensue, and people will try to squash all optimism and joy you have in your life. Don’t’ let them, darling. These are only failed attempts to bring you down to their level, a new low that you born to overcome.

2. Go out and be the change you wish to see in the world! If you do not like something about yourself or society in general, change it.

At the end of the day, you are the only one in charge of your density; so do not let someone else write the story of your life. There are a plethora of dreams and aspirations bottled up within the deepest realms of your mind, just waiting for an initial spark of inspiration to transform them into realities.

3. Life will not always have a fairytale ending.

As much as I adore clichés and the beautiful princess going home with her handsome Prince Charming, life always seems to get in the way. However, even when your heart is torn to pieces and you find yourself crying on your bathroom floor, just begging for things to change, you have to find it within your soul to keep trying. Never loose faith. Continue to stay strong and prove to the world you cannot be defeated. Do not let anyone steal that perfectly-placed, shining crown from the top of your head.

4. Realize that everyone deserves their own Chuck Bass.

You are a queen who deserves to have someone think just as highly of you as you do your own self. It is important to know your own value and self-worth, never settling for anyone who makes you feel less than perfect. Being with someone who makes you want to be a better version of yourself is of the utmost necessity, and shouldn’t be ignored when seeking out a partner. Subsequently, if he or she falls short of everything mentioned above, you should not belittle your own character to fit the needs of your significant other. Stay true to yourself and your heart.

5. Most importantly, never give up on love.

There is no doubt that Blair went through hell and back in order to preserve her relationship with Chuck, a notion that made her all the more strong in the end. It was evident that they were doomed from the beginning, with him being a womanizer and she being a die-hard romantic. But, it is important to never forget that even the most unlikely of partnerships can flourish into a beautiful relationship...such as Chuck and Blair. Sometimes all you need is a little bit of courage to admit your true feelings to both yourself and your loved one, for love can be a scary thing to navigate, in the beginning. Just know, it is always worth it in the end.

Life may cause you to cry out in sadness, smile with happiness, and persevere with ambition, all at the same time. This doesn’t make you crazy… this just makes you a Waldorf.


Cover Image Credit: Vogue

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I Went To "The Bachelor" Auditions

And here's why you won’t be seeing me on TV.

It’s finally time to admit my guilty pleasure: I have always been a huge fan of The Bachelor.

I can readily admit that I’ve been a part of Bachelor fantasy leagues, watch parties, solo watching — you name it, I’ve gone the whole nine yards. While I will admit that the show can be incredibly trashy at times, something about it makes me want to watch it that much more. So when I found out that The Bachelor was holding auditions in Houston, I had to investigate.

While I never had the intention of actually auditioning, there was no way I would miss an opportunity to spend some time people watching and check out the filming location of one of my favorite TV shows.

The casting location of The Bachelor, The Downtown Aquarium in Houston, was less than two blocks away from my office. I assumed that I would easily be able to spot the audition line, secretly hoping that the endless line of people would beg the question: what fish could draw THAT big of a crowd?

As I trekked around the tanks full of aquatic creatures in my bright pink dress and heels (feeling somewhat silly for being in such nice clothes in an aquarium and being really proud of myself for somewhat looking the part), I realized that these auditions would be a lot harder to find than I thought.

Finally, I followed the scent of hairspray leading me up the elevator to the third floor of the aquarium.

The doors slid open. I found myself at the end of a large line of 20-something-year-old men and women and I could feel all eyes on me, their next competitor. I watched as one woman pulled out her travel sized hair curler, someone practiced answering interview questions with a companion, and a man (who was definitely a little too old to be the next bachelor) trying out his own pick-up lines on some of the women standing next to him.

I walked to the end of the line (trying to maintain my nonchalant attitude — I don’t want to find love on a TV show). As I looked around, I realized that one woman had not taken her eyes off of me. She batted her fake eyelashes and looked at her friend, mumbling something about the *grumble mumble* “girl in the pink dress.”

I felt a wave of insecurity as I looked down at my body, immediately beginning to recognize the minor flaws in my appearance.

The string hanging off my dress, the bruise on my ankle, the smudge of mascara I was sure I had on the left corner of my eye. I could feel myself begin to sweat. These women were all so gorgeous. Everyone’s hair was perfectly in place, their eyeliner was done flawlessly, and most of them looked like they had just walked off the runway. Obviously, I stuck out like a sore thumb.

I walked over to the couches and sat down. For someone who for the most part spent most of the two hours each Monday night mocking the cast, I was shocked by how much pressure and tension I felt in the room.

A cop, stationed outside the audition room, looked over at me. After a brief explanation that I was just there to watch, he smiled and offered me a tour around the audition space. I watched the lines of beautiful people walk in and out of the space, realizing that each and every one of these contestants to-be was fixated on their own flaws rather than actually worrying about “love.”

Being with all these people, I can see why it’s so easy to get sucked into the fantasy. Reality TV sells because it’s different than real life. And really, what girl wouldn’t like a rose?

Why was I so intimidated by these people? Reality TV is actually the biggest oxymoron. In real life, one person doesn’t get to call all the shots. Every night isn’t going to be in a helicopter looking over the south of France. A real relationship depends on more than the first impression.

The best part of being in a relationship is the reality. The best part about yourself isn’t your high heels. It’s not the perfect dress or the great pick-up lines. It’s being with the person that you can be real with. While I will always be a fan of The Bachelor franchise, this was a nice dose of reality. I think I’ll stick to my cheap sushi dates and getting caught in the rain.

But for anyone who wants to be on The Bachelor, let me just tell you: Your mom was right. There really are a lot of fish in the sea. Or at least at the aquarium.

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11 Amazing TV Shows That Are Ending in 2019

All good things must come to an end.


It might just be the beginning of 2019 but there are many TV series wrapping up already. There are many breathtaking and original pilots around along with several reboots coming. This might be one of the greatest year for TV.

However, all good things must come to an end. Some series have been planned out and are going to be finished while others have been cut short. Sadly, here's a list of TV series to say goodbye to this year.

1. The Big Bang Theory (CBS)

Final Date: May

12 Seasons//279 episodes

2. Orange is the New Black (Netflix)


Final Date: End of 2019

7 seasons//91 episodes

3. Jane the Virgin (CW)


Final Date: Mid-late 2019

5 seasons//100 episodes

4. Games of Thrones (HBO)


Final Date: Summer

8 Seasons//73 episodes

5. Broad City (Comedy Central)

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Final Date: March

5 seasons//50 episodes



Final Date: Spring

7 seasons//67 episodes

7. Homeland (Showtime)


Final date: Summer

8 seasons//96 episodes

8. Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt (Netflix)

Final date: January 25

4 seasons//52 episodes

9. The Affair (Showtime)


Final Date: End of 2019

5 seasons//42 episodes

10. Friends From College (Netflix)

Final Date: End of 2019

2 seasons//16 episodes

11. Crashing (HBO)


Final Date: End of 2019

3 seasons//24 episodes

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