Being the big girl was always hard for me through school. I always struggled as I was very self conscious. Now a days I am working on myself and learning self love. My friends were usually smaller than myself, which at times made me feel pretty self conscious. I never thought I would be able to wear the clothes I wanted, date who I wanted to date, or be able to be considered beautiful.

Over the years I have learned that I am beautiful, I can wear what I want, and I can actually get dates with guys, no problem. I still struggle with my confidence, but I am working on it. My friends, family and boyfriend love me for who I am. The hardest thing to handle sometimes is, when It comes to my relationships, I choose to date thinner men.

I have a little more to love and at times, that makes it hard to be confident in myself and when I was single & looking to date. Before I get to far into this topic, I am going to be honest, I like smaller guys.

I just like them on the skinnier or “ripped” range. I have always dated guys skinnier than myself and I have learned that earns some attention, if that is the best way to put it. The strangers that give looks are what makes it hard for me. Cause it makes me feel disgusting.

My boyfriend who I have been dating for a year loves me from the top of my head to the tips of my toes. He reminds me every day I am perfect to him and gorgeous. But he also supports the fact that I am choosing to workout and lose weight. But that is not the point of this article. The point of this is to get it out there that, lets be real, he and I have been looked at while out and about. Regardless if he notices or not, I do.

I have caught people giving those looks like “why?” why what? Why is he dating me? Cause he thinks I am beautiful. He thinks I am sexy and gorgeous. He loves me for who I am not just my body and looks.

Sometimes it gets to me, but over my overall dating career, I have began ignoring it. Why you may ask? How you may ask? Well I smile at people and give him a kiss or hug him. It makes them look away and mind their business.

Being bigger than your boyfriend is nothing to be ashamed of, at all. He is with you because he loves you. He is with you cause he knows you’re gorgeous!

I can still wear his coats, sweatshirts, t-shirts or sweatpants. We have any relationship like another couple. There is nothing wrong with our relationship.

So next time you see a bigger girl with her boyfriend who is smaller than her, please smile. Don’t give disgusted looks, even if you think there is something wrong – even though you shouldn’t! Be kind. A smile goes a long way. Trust me.