Every new member in a sorority or fraternity is assigned a "Big." This person is essentially supposed to act as a mentor to their "Little" and guide them through the first year within the organization.
I think everyone is genuinely excited to have this unique bond. No Big/Little relationship is identical, but every new member is excited at the prospect of having someone to help them out until they get the hang of things. A Big is supposed to make you feel comfortable within the sorority or fraternity and introduce you to people. They're someone to sit with at football games or go out with on the weekends. You sit with them at meals and blow up their phone before every function just to ensure they'll be there with you. For some weird reason, people assume every Big/Little relationship is going to be perfect and effortless. In reality, however, they're not. Instead, only about 65 percent of these relationships actually work well.
My Big was random. I had never spoken to her before the reveal and to be honest, we never really spoke again after the reveal. She was awesome, but the sorority wasn't her first priority and that's okay. She had a life of her own and I simply didn't have a place in it. I'm not the only one with a situation like this. You're basically forced to take a Little and sometimes, you don't have the time or resources to provide for one in the way you want to. Sometimes, you're forced to take more than one and it's hard. Twins are difficult because it's basically proven that there will always be a favorite out of the two and the other gets ignored.
The only relationships that get publicized are the ones that work out. It's a sad reality, but it's the truth. I wanted to have a Big I worked well with so badly, but it just didn't happen. It's not the end of the world, though, because I've made plenty of friends who have been in the sorority longer and who can guide me through. You're always going to have someone looking out for you within your organization, whether It be a sorority or a fraternity. You're not contained to just your Big and it's okay if your relationship doesn't work out. My Big and I spoke maybe five times, but that's perfectly fine. It was upsetting at first, but you honestly develop so many more relationships that will help you pull through.
Not every relationship between Big and Little is perfect, despite what people want you to believe, but you're certainly not the only one having issues. You'll be able to take your own Little in no time and work to fix what needs to be fixed. Just sit tight and know that no matter what, you have people on your side and who have your back for when things get rough.
