Why The “Best Four Years Of Your Life” Saying Is BS

Why The “Best Four Years Of Your Life” Saying Is BS

If people could stop saying this, that'd be great.


People are always saying that high school or college are "the best four years of your life". Everything about this saying frustrates me. I think it implies that you basically get four years either when you are 14-18 years old or 18-22 years old to live your best life and if that doesn't happen, well sorry about your luck, but you missed out. All throughout high school adults would tell me that these would be the best four years of my life, and I was always daunted by that statement.

It made me feel pressure to enjoy every single day because my life wouldn't get better than those four years, and to think that or much less say that is completely ridiculous. To be quite frank, I did not enjoy high school and I would not go back. Those could not possibly be the best four years of my life. Not to discredit all the good memories and experience I did have, but I always have expected more out of my life than what gave me joy as a 16-year-old who had a curfew. Once I felt that the pressure was off when I graduated high school and I could live life without the pressure of making it the "best", adults started saying the exact same thing about college and how that would be the best four years of my life.

Now, I could have been excited that I was being given another four years to make my best, but again there is that level of pressure. It's so easy whenever life isn't going your way to think, "Is this really what is supposed to be the best four years of my life?" Again, this is not to take away from the fun I have had at college, but I think to put this unattainable, unreachable pressure of the best years is just ridiculous. I'm sure I will look back and love the life I was living, but there is something paralyzing about focusing on a certain time period in one's life to be the best.

I would like to think that all the years in my life are going to have moments that make them the best. I don't want to be pigeonholed into thinking I am living or have already lived the best years of my life. I think there is a danger in this line of thinking to where if you think the best has already happened to you, where is the motivation to succeed and better yourself. Yes, right now these years are probably the years where we will have the least responsibility, but what about the years you get to spend with your future family and all the remaining years you have left in your life? I think it is doing a great disservice to your life to narrow down the best years to the years we live so early on. So much self-growth takes place throughout adulthood, and when we grow we only get better, which to me means all of our years have the potential to be great.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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