It may seem like one of the worst things possible... When your BF gets a BF. Yes, I mean when your best friend gets a boyfriend, because who wants to share? You're used to having her to go out with every weekend, getting every meal together, and basically spending every second you're not in class, together. It's hard when she gets a boyfriend, you have to worry about a 3rd party instead of just the two of you. It's even worse if all she wants to do now is spend every second with him, instead of you. You'll feel like she's basically forgetting about you, but that's not the case. The relationship is new and everybody has some adjusting to do. While adjusting to your BF getting a BF, here are a few things to keep in mind at all times.
1. You can make more friends.
If you and your best friend are the type of girls who are too worried about each other to notice anybody else, this could be good for you. When she's out getting dinner with him, sleeping over his dorm, and spending every second she has with him, this is the perfect time for you to go out and make more friends! I'm not saying replace her, but go out and meet more people so you don't get lonely when she's out with her BF.
2. She's not trying to make you the 3rd wheel.
If she invites you to hang out with the two of them, keep in mind she's not trying to make you a 3rd wheel. If anything, you should be happy she invited you. This shows she's trying to balance the two of you, even if you wish it was just you and her. And if she's trying, this means you have to try, too. Agree to hang out and don't make yourself the third wheel. If you have a 3rd wheel mindset you'll begin to act like one, even if nobody is making you one. If anything, he's the third wheel, you did come first after all.
3. Give him a chance.
If she likes him, that means you can't hate him. Try to get to know him before you make any judgements. Him taking up all of her time is not a good enough reason to hate him.
4. Don't get jealous.
Now that the girl you used to always complain about boys with is in a relationship, you might begin to feel even lonelier, but don't let that get the best of you. The both of you have been single together, so it's been okay because you guys have, well, each other. If you want to see more of her and less of him, just set up girl nights every so often. Don't complain that she's with him too much as a way to tell her you miss her. She's used to hearing that they spend too much time together, and she doesn't want to hear it from you, too. Of course you can get a little jealous, but don't let that little bit show in the wrong way because she might not understand. Is the jealousy of her having a BF worth losing her completely?
5. Be there for her if it doesn't work out.
Yea, she might ditch you for him now, but she thinks she found "the one" and this is normal for most people. This is so new and she wants to take advantage of having a new fling in her life, especially if she's not used to having BFs. Just keep in mind, even if she's ditching you when things are going good for her, they might not always. This is when she'll really need you by her side. If they end up having problems or breaking up, just be there for her and worry about the times she's ditched you later.
6. Be happy for her.
She doesn't have to complain about all the terrible guys from the past because she finally found one who treats her right. Even if he doesn't treat her as good as you wish he did, she's happy and that's what really matters.
You're her BF, be happy for her, because let's be real, she'd fake it for you, too.
