I do not believe in marriage.

Yes, I am a firm believer of God and I am in a healthy relationship. Yet I find marriage somewhat unnecessary, especially in my early 20’s.

Marriage is a sacred bond between two people and is a lifetime commitment, yet I always see people cheating, getting bored, divorced, and so on. So why do we hold marriage to a high standard when we as human beings seem to not follow through with what we say during our vows? Even so, there are generations that are firm believers of marriage.

We as a society have become accustomed to believing that marriage is this level of maturity and commitment that only married people would understand. It has also been drilled into some of our brains that if you do not get married you are living in sin.

I have seen many people be mature and committed in their relationships even without marriage.

I also have seen people live happily without marriage and doubt that God is continuously over them reminding them that they are living in sin.

Do not get me wrong, I respect those who have gotten married and believe it is the right thing to do for their own sake. I do not see the progress in belittling those who choose not to get married.

Personally, I have chosen not to get married because first off I’m still young and have a lot of time to grow and learn about myself and my significant other. I also do not feel it is necessary to put down thousands of dollars with my significant other to create a ceremonial gesture to show how my significant other and I feel about each other.

It is important to note that it is okay not to get married and still be happily living with your significant other.

Too many are quick to judge when someone is not married and decides not to marry. I think that though we try to say that the reason behind marriage is to show God and ourselves that we are fully committed to loving one another, there’s also that judgmental aspect of if one does not get married there is something wrong with the relationship or the person.

Love is love and the way you choose to show it depends on each individual.

I do not believe in marriage because the same commitment you speak, the grand gestures you show through a ceremony, and the piece of paper you sign as a commitment is something I can do with my significant other through a pinky promise.

Personally, I believe it is just a matter of the person you are and how truly committed, loyal, and honest you can be with that person. I don’t think people should be judged for their decision to marry or not to marry.

In my opinion though, to me, no piece of paper does not signify true love so please understand when I say that no I do not believe in marriage.