All my life I've struggled defining what a friend is. Thinking that a best friend was necessary to survive this world, I remember constantly looking for one and didn’t find any. Even when people considered me a best friend, I never considered them to be one to me. Just like Santa Claus and the Easter bunny I stopped believing in best friends. But the reason for that wasn't because having one was childish, it just wasn’t for me.

If you have a best friend, that’s great and if you don’t have one, it is nothing to cry over. Some of us are faking friendships, pretending to have stuff in common with others so we won’t be lonely. Some of us are also holding onto people who we know are toxic to us. The idea of a best friend is based solely on the beholder, whether it is good, bad or just is.

When one searches up "best friend," results include the ideas of unconditional love, great compatibility and seem to define it by some sort of “oneness” between two people. They are considered dependable, there whenever you need them and the other half of you. Hearing this felt nice until I sat down and thought about it. That was when I realized that the only person I felt that with was myself...I am my own best friend.

Now, I’m not here to talk only about myself, but I just want to say that it is okay to not have a best friend, now or never. Just like many other things people believe,it is a social construct. One is not weird to have one or believe in one and vise versa. Some people have found their best friend(s) and some didn’t, but that doesn’t mean anything really. It doesn’t hurt to be one’s own best friend.

At the end of the day, you have the potential to be your worst enemy or your best advocate. Having a best friend is a privilege and not a necessity, in my opinion. One doesn’t need one to survive, but it is a privilege to have someone who considers you a part of their life and worth getting close to.If you have one, you are doing just fine and may consider yourself lucky.

As for people who don’t have one, if you are reading this, make sure you are breathing. You are alive and that is enough. Life doesn’t change its difficulty level because one has a trusty sidekick or “co-hero.” It’s the same game, just played differently. Yes, human interaction is necessary to get by in this world, but most of the things that happen in one’s life are based on the actions and thoughts of one’s self.

It’s not essential to believe in things that don’t seem real in one’s own life. If you have one and still believe, hopefully you find what you are looking for. At the end of it all, what is a bestie, other than a concept that some take seriously more than others? I don’t believe in the bestie, Do you?

Please comment below. It would be good to hear what you think about this.