11 General Beliefs About Feminists That Aren't Quite Accurate

11 General Beliefs About Feminists That Aren't Quite Accurate

Equal rights are something that shouldn’t have to be earned. As human beings, we are all made equal.
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I know in today’s world anytime someone says they believe one way there is someone else willing to argue against, and as I have found they don't always disagree.

Some people just want to argue for the sake of argument. Often people are unwilling to listen to someone else’s view, and block out what they do not wish to hear. As I am still young I do my best to stay out of matters I don’t fully understand until I have more information.

However, as a feminist I feel the need to share some issues I have either when I say I am feminist or when discussing my view of something.

1. All feminists are radical.

This is one of the most important things to understand. Not all feminists are radical. It can be frustrating to say you are feminist and have people look at you like an abomination because all they can think about are what they see on TV with women walking around dressed as vaginas. T

here is also this common definition of a feminist as someone who believes women are superior.

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines feminism as “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.” There is not one place in that definition that says feminists are extreme and want to take over the world.

Now that isn’t to say some feminists aren’t extreme and don’t want to take over the world, but it’s not exactly fair to say that’s the goal of all feminists.

2. Feminists hate men.

I love this one. Why do people believe that because I am for women, it means I am against men? Sorry but that’s not how this works. Okay, I’m sure for some people that could stand true, but not for all. Feminists are for equality of the sexes, not women for everything and men for the junkyard.

I personally love the men in my life, and I have nothing against the men I don’t know. Now, of course, there are bad men in the world, but there are also bad women in the world

3. Feminists don't care how others see them.

There are some feminists who don’t shave and others who don’t dress up, but that is their choice. That is what all of this is about, a woman’s choice to be how she wants and not be chastised for it.

I for one dress for myself, I take care of myself however I want, and I do things for myself.

This is my choice. If I am wearing a dress it is not for other people; it is because it makes me feel good. I don’t care how others see me physically so long as that isn’t the only thing they see in me.

4. Feminists do everything for themselves.

As a feminist I do enjoy opening my own doors, paying for my meal, and I will fight to do those things sometimes. That isn’t to say I don’t also enjoy having doors opened for me. I also hold doors open for other people, even men.

This one is especially fun because they don’t like having a woman open their door, but what can I say.

Something else to consider is if I am struggling with something I would prefer to ask for help rather than someone help me because they think I can’t do it. Let me try first. Honestly, women just don’t like being told they can’t do something, much like men. Starting to see how this works?

5. The feminists' agenda is only for women.

This goes back to the definition of feminism. Equality of the sexes. Let’s take down the ads with half naked women. Well, we should probably take down the ads with half-naked men in them as well.

Granted there aren’t quite as many of those. As a feminist, if I believe something is not right for one sex then I don’t think it’s right for the other. If a man gets paid a certain amount then I believe a woman in the same position should get pain the same amount, and vise versa.

6. Feminists over exaggerate the lack of female rights.

Here it is. One of the worst arguments. Truth be told, everyone exaggerates. Now to find real information there are sources that will give it accurately, but there are fakes too. Do women have rights?

Yes, they do.

Do women have equal rights? Yes, they kind of do. There are equal rights in some situations and not others. It isn’t right to say women have equal rights when it isn’t generally accepted for a woman to do the same thing as a man. That is not equal rights.

7. Feminists bring too much attention to their cause.

To be truthful there are so many things in this world that are not fair.

There is abundant of issues to fix, but we have to start somewhere. There is honestly a large issue with inequality. Not just in the U.S., but around the world. We have a nice set up in the U.S. Granted it’s not perfect, but it’s better than it could be.

If I have the ability to discuss my issues with equality then should I not be allowed to voice that? I can’t even begin to imagine what it’s like to not be able to speak for myself or about my beliefs.

There are places like that in the world and if there is even the smallest chance to change something or bring more awareness to it, then that’s what we should do. I will be a feminist for those who don’t have the freedom to be one.



8. Feminists don't like hearing they have rights.

Actually, I love hearing I have rights. I do have rights, a lot of them in fact. The key phrase though is they aren’t equal rights. That is the goal. I know I have rights. I have rights to moon and back, but not all women do, and not all are equal. For example a female preacher.

This is often not heard of where I grew up. Why can’t a woman be a preacher? Go ahead and tell me what the bible says. That’s fine, but it also says a lot of things we don’t pay attention to because they are outdated, it was in reference to a specific group of people, or simply we don’t want to hear it.

A woman does not have the equal right as a man to be a preacher. Some places she might, but others not so much.

9. All feminists are women.

This one is good, but oh so very wrong. A man can be feminist. I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s true. The only requirement is that a person has to support equality of the sexes. Simple as that. Now that you have this new information, are you a feminist?

10. Feminists are the result of strong female guidance.

My mom was a huge factor in me being feminist. Now we don’t always share the same beliefs, but she did teach me at a young age what a strong woman looked like. My grandmothers also were factors in this.

They taught me to be outspoken, and that I didn’t need a man to make me successful. Although they also showed me those supportive men, aka my grandfathers, are a good thing to have. My stepmom showed me that I can bark back if it’s necessary, and not to shy away.

My dad taught me that I by no means have to do anything a man tells me to. I and my dad don’t always agree, but that’s okay. I don’t have to agree with everyone. My stepdad showed me that men can believe in strong women, and help them when they need it. See, not just strong women make a feminist.



11. All feminists have the same views and beliefs...

But they don't. Not all feminists have the same belief? That’s crazy! ...It’s not though. Any other group of people can have whatever shared and different beliefs they want and it’s understood.

I have had it happen where I was debating one topic and my opponent turned around and told me because of my belief on that topic, I had a specific belief on a different topic.

To be clear my opponent was wrong. Just because I have one belief does not mean I have another. I can believe the sun isn’t real, but believe the moon is. That is my choice and my right.


I wholeheartedly believe we have the right to, as our constitution puts it, the pursuit of happiness. Let me say that again. The PURSUIT of happiness. Transferring this to feminism means that women should have equal opportunity.

I am by no means saying a woman should receive something she does not deserve because she is a woman and it is needed to give the appearance of equality. I am saying a woman should receive the same things a man, as her equal, would receive.

Equal rights are something that shouldn’t have to be earned.

As human beings, we are all made equal.

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I Might Have Aborted My Fetus When I Was 18, But Looking Back, I Saved A Child’s Life

It may have been one of the hardest decisions of my life, but I wouldn't be where I am today if I hadn't had done it.

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Due to recent political strife happening in the world today, I have decided to write on a very touchy, difficult subject for me that only a handful of people truly know.

When I was 18 years old, I had an abortion.

I was fresh out of high school, and deferring college for a year or two — I wanted to get all of my immature fun out so I was prepared to focus and work in the future. I was going through my hardcore party stage, and I had a boyfriend at the time that truly was a work of art (I mean truly).

Needless to say, I was extremely misinformed on sex education, and I never really thought it could happen to me. I actually thought I was invincible to getting pregnant, and it never really registered to me that if I had unprotected sex, I could actually get pregnant (I was 18, I never said I was smart).

I remember being at my desk job and for weeks, I just felt so nauseous and overly tired. I was late for my period, but it never really registered to me something could be wrong besides just getting the flu — it was November, which is the peak of flu season.

The first person I told was my best friend, and she came with me to get three pregnancy tests at Target. The first one came negative, however, the second two came positive.

I truly believe this was when my anxiety disorder started because I haven't been the same ever since.

Growing up in a conservative, Catholic Italian household, teen pregnancy and especially abortion is 150% frowned upon. So when I went to Planned Parenthood and got the actual lab test done that came out positive, I was heartbroken.

I felt like I was stuck between two roads: Follow how I was raised and have the child, or terminate it and ultimately save myself AND the child from a hard future.

My boyfriend at the time and I were beyond not ready. That same week, I found out he had cheated on me with his ex and finances weren't looking so great, and I was starting to go through the hardest depression of my life. Because of our relationship, I had lost so many friends and family, that I was left to decide the fate of both myself and this fetus. I could barely take care of myself — I was drinking, overcoming drug addictions, slightly suicidal and living with a man who didn't love me.

As selfish as you may think this was, I terminated the fetus and had the abortion.

I knew that if I had the child, I would be continuing the cycle in which my family has created. My goal since I was young was to break the cycle and breakaway from the toxicity in how generations of children in my family were raised. If I had this child, I can assure you my life would be far from how it is now.

If I had carried to term, I would have had a six-year old, and God knows where I would've been.

Now, I am fulfilling my future by getting a BA in Politics, Philosophy and Economics, having several student leadership roles, and looking into law schools for the future.

Although it still haunts me, and the thought of having another abortion truly upsets me, it was the best thing to ever happen to me. I get asked constantly "Do you think it's just to kill a valuable future of a child?" and my response to that is this:

It's in the hands of the woman. She is giving away her valuable future to an unwanted pregnancy, which then resentment could cause horror to both the child and the woman.

As horrible as it was for me in my personal experience, I would not be where I am today: a strong woman, who had overcome addiction, her partying stage, and ultimately got her life in order. If I would have had the child, I can assure you that I would have followed the footsteps of my own childhood, and the child would not have had an easy life.

Because of this, I saved both my life and the child's life.

And if you don't agree or you dislike this decision, tough stuff because this is my body, my decision, my choice — no one else.

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Abortion Bans Are Only A Small Part Of The Republican War On Women

These bans expose the Republican Party for what it truly is.

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This week, several states passed laws that ban abortion after six to eight weeks of pregnancy, before most women even know that they're pregnant. The most egregious of these is Alabama — the state has banned abortion except for in cases of danger to the mother. Exceptions in the cases of rape and incest were actively voted against by the state legislature. Under the new law, any doctor who is caught giving an abortion would be sentenced to 99 years in prison, and the woman would be charged with murder.

Apart from the fact that this explicitly violates the decision of Roe v. Wade (which is the point), this is only a small part of the slow but steady degradation of women's rights by Republicans in the United States. To anyone who believes that this is simply about people being "pro-life" or "saving the children," then tell them to look at what happens after the fetus is carried to term.

Republicans oppose forcing fathers to be involved in the lives of their children that were forcibly carried to term, desires to cut food stamps and make it more difficult to feed said child, cut funding for affordable housing to make it more difficult for them to find homes, cut spending to public education so these children can't move up the social ladder, and refuse to offer the woman or her child health insurance to keep them both healthy. What about efforts to prevent pregnancy? Republicans also oppose funding birth control and contraception, as well as opposing comprehensive sexual education. To them, the only feasible solution is to simply keep your legs shut. They oppose all of these things because it is, in their eyes, a violation of individual rights to force people to do something. The bill also makes women who get abortions felons, and felons can't vote. I'll let you finish putting those two together.

If you view it from this framework, it would seem like Republicans are being extremely hypocritical by violating the personal freedoms of pregnant women, but if you look at it from the view of restricting social mobility for women, then it makes perfect sense. The Republican dogma of "individual rights" and "personal responsibility" is a socially acceptable facade that they use to cover up their true intentions of protecting the status quo and protect those in power. About any Republican policy, ask yourself: does this disperse power or consolidate it? Whether it be education, healthcare, the environment, or the economy, Republicans love to keep power away from the average citizen and give it to the small number of people that they deem "deserving" of it because of their race, gender, wealth, or power. This is the case with abortion as well; Power is being taken from women, and being given back to men in a reversal of the Feminist Movement of the 1970s.

Republicans don't believe in systemic issues. They believe that everyone has the same opportunity to succeed regardless of what point they started. This is why they love capitalism so much. It acts as some sort of great filter in which only those who deserve power can make it to the top. It's also why they hate social policies; they think that helping people who can't help themselves changes the hierarchy in a negative way by giving people who don't "deserve" power, power. Of course, we know that just because you have money and power doesn't mean you earned it fair and square, and even if Republicans believe it, it wouldn't change anything because it wouldn't change how they want to distribute power.

In short, Republican policies, including abortion, leave the average American with less money, less protection, less education, worse health, less opportunity, fewer rights, and less freedom. This is NOT a side effect. This is the point. Regardless of what Republicans will tell you about "inalienable rights" and how everyone is equal, in reality, they believe that some people and groups are more deserving of rights than others, and the group that deserves rights the most are the ones "that will do the best with them." To Republicans, this group consists of the wealthy, the powerful, and the white — the mega-rich, the CEOs of large companies, gun owners and Christians.

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