Now-a-days a couple breaking up due to one being unfaithful is the complete norm. Yes, this sucks royally especially if you're someone who is loyal to a fault, but hey - shit happens. When we really think about how different our society is today, it's really no surprise that this happens on a regular basis. Not to mention if someone does know your significant other is being unfaithful, the chances they will actually say something to you is slim to none. Can you really blame them? No one wants to be the one to break you up and on top of that, you probably won't believe them anyway.

Today, it's just so easy. It's too easy to find someone new before you're certain you want to be done with your current. Social media plays a huge role with this. We all play these games where we always like his/her picture and although it may be nothing to one, this can be considered FLIRTING now...seriously? On top of this, now all social media allows for messaging each other which is way easier to hide. This is taking being sneaky to a whole new level. Something as harmless as posting a picture on Instagram can lead to a problem if you're not careful.

Some will say that this is not cheating, which sure I can agree to, however is it faithful? Would you be okay with it if the tables were turned? The funny thing is that we don't see the problem with this but we still feel the need to hide it. We refuse to talk publicly to this person, or even give them our phone number...yet it's no problem to have them on messenger...makes sense.

I must say the social media that I believe creates the biggest problem in relationships with staying faithful is snapchat. Believe me, I love snapchat however you have to be careful. The fact that not only the messages disappear but the pictures do...creates so much room to be sneaky. The other problem is that even if you're not always responding to the snapchat's they can still become a "best friend" and have a streak with you. This can create so much room for question, even if nothing is going on it can cause unnecessary trust issues.

Obviously, it's normal to have friends of the opposite sex, if you're with someone who isn't letting you be friends with who you want then you shouldn't be with them regardless. My general rule of thumb is if I'm not willing to tell the person I'm dating about the person I am messaging, I probably shouldn't be talking to them or shouldn't be in a relationship. It's completely normal to lose interest in someone or just not want to be with them, but don't put them through hell just because you don't have the guts to end it. We all deserve happiness, together or apart but don't be sneaky because you want to see what else is out there but don't want to be alone.

Some advice from someone who has experienced and watched situations like this unfold on many different levels:
If you suddenly notice you're receiving less attention than usual, they become distant, don't want to spend time with you, or you just don't feel like things are working out, don't be afraid to take the matter into your own hands. You should never feel unwanted in a relationship regardless of if someone is being unfaithful or not. Put yourself first from time to time, realize what you need and what you're not getting. Don't allow someone else to create your happiness.
If you begin to find yourself getting attracted to other people, maybe you should end your current relationship. Let's be realistic, you are not meant to marry every person you date. If you were, we'd still be having arranged marriages. There is absolutely nothing wrong with seeing new people, experiencing life, and just adventuring.
Always respect yourself first. The moment others notice that you don't respect yourself, they will find it acceptable to do the same. You are strong. You are independent. Someone will find the beauty behind your crazy. There is no sense in settling, there are millions of people in this world. Wait it out, for the love of God be patient!

Yes, it's easy to be unfaithful but it's not right. If you're with someone, embrace their presence to the fullest. If you don't want them, just let them go. Freedom is a beautiful thing when you're with the wrong person.