I read this quote by Jorge Louis Borges:

"So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers."

I think this quote really applies to relationships because everyone wants something from their loved ones. Whether you want them to ask you something, give you flowers, etc. I'm not saying become selfish, but allow yourself to still do things on your own.

I believe there's a misconception in relationships where people think they can no longer grow on their own and do things they once loved. These feelings come after the initial stages of the relationship where you want to do anything and everything together until it fades and you realize you can have a very long time together. They feel like they have to give up who they are and parts of their life to be in a relationship and keep their partner happy. This isn't true. Your partner should accept and love you for who you are, and support you in all your dreams, endeavors, and adventures. They should push you to be the best version of yourself and want you to grow too.

Stop waiting for someone else to do things for you. Stop waiting for them to ask you. This adds pressure to them that doesn't allow you to enjoy the flowers they bring you. Make your own garden. Take responsibility for your happiness. Be independent; form your own opinions; have your own interests. Do things for yourself.

You control your happiness. Own that.

Go to the movie you've always wanted to go see.

Ask the questions you've been wanting them to ask you.

Do what you need to feel whole, happy, and full of life.

Be you. Be yourself. Make your own flowers. If they bring you some, then that's just extra happiness added.