Some people are naturally born to be something; a politician, a chef or even the next Oprah. Some figure out their purpose sooner than others. And for me, mine is being a mom.
Not a regular mom, like a cool mom.
There is a “mom” of every friend group. Who knows, maybe it's you! If you’re always giving advice to someone or similar to Mary Poppins where your bag is a bottomless pit of anything anyone could ask for then the chances of you being a “mom” are very high.
Or the biggest sign of all, that you sound like your own mom.
Having a type of maternal behavior is not something someone can achieve; you’re naturally born with it. Ever since I was a kid, it seemed like I was always the responsible one of the group.
Being an only child, I had a close-knit relationship with my parents. From the beginning, I was a mom in training: watching HGTV’s "House Hunters" in the first grade, giddy about antique shop outings and organizing play dates with friends like they were business meetings.
But us moms can admit that having this personality has its downsides.
Being shy and having a “mom” personality definitely left me feeling excluded at various points while growing up. It made me struggle to open up to people and I often felt uncomfortable or awkward in situations. Due to this anxiety, I felt my true personality never shined through.
It wasn’t until college that I began to come out of my shell.
One of the best things I’ve learned in college is how irrelevant high school is. No one cares about what extracurriculars you participated in or what you were like because the past does not matter here. All that matters is the person you are becoming.
I vowed I would break my “mom” personality once I got to school. And for a certain point, I did. I was a social butterfly with a free spirit persona whose freak flag was flying very high.
However, it wasn’t until second semester that I learned to embrace my inner "mom." It is so easy to fall into the crowd and worry what everyone else is doing or thinking. This is something we often struggle with and fail to admit to ourselves.
Being a mom is nothing to be ashamed of. We’re a rare breed and should be proud of it. Everyone secretly wants us to be their friend as because we’re the glue that tries to keep it all together.
The adult world has nothing on us. We’re been “adulting” since we could tie our shoelaces and responsibility is in our blood.
FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) may overcome us during our college careers, but staying in and watching Netflix with some friends can be ten times better than going to a crowded, basement party.
And if you weren’t a mom, who would be taking care of your friend when they’re sick or dealing with a boy issue?
Yes, college is four years of life you will never get back. Yes, you should live life to the fullest. But remember, this is the first chapter to your story and many more are to come. Being silly or wild doesn’t only have to be when you’re young; age is a number after all.
Sure, I can be a mom but I am far from boring. Being cautious isn’t being lame, it’s being smart. That’s where the real difference is.
Moms are cool, and we should embrace their coolness that they're their own person. Be different, be a mom because sooner or later your friends, family and yourself will thank you later.
