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Sometimes The Friendzone Is The Best Place To Be, Ask My Guy Friends

Who else would make sure all the guys I date are good for me?

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Cassity Stewart

My entire life, I've always had an overwhelming number of guy friends.

My first best friend was a little boy whose older brother was on the same baseball team as my older brother. That one detail created a friendship that I'll always look back on and smile at, complete with eating Dunkaroos in his tree house and playing with his dog while watching Blue's Clues.

Since I had an older brother, I was around guys a lot as a kid. And as I grew up, I became really great friends with a lot of guys. All of my middle school years were spent hanging out with the boys in my neighborhood, riding bikes and playing video games at their houses.

My first kiss was with my best guy friend, and I ended up dating the guy who was my best friend throughout my junior year of high school.

One thing that I've realized about all of the guys that I've grown close to is that I'm always way too happy with just being friends.

Hear me out. I'm a mess when it comes to expectations. I feel like my expectations for boyfriends are just slightly over what they should be. And whenever I've crossed that threshold from best friend to boyfriend, it's blown up in my face. I've learned my lesson from the few times that has happened.

I thought I was done with guys after I broke up with my boyfriend back in November. Whenever my friends and I would hang out, it was like we were holding an Anti-Guy Convention where we were the keynote speakers. Picture "Sex in the City," except everyone was Samantha and we were all sober.

However, senior prom was coming up and I needed a date. My one best friend was going with her long-term boyfriend, and my other best friend was going with HER best guy friend. So of course, I needed a guy to complete our table of couples.

I went with one of my best guy friends, and he made me feel like a queen all night.

When he picked me up, he brought me a bouquet of white roses and opened my car door for me. I actually almost cried. He continues to be one of my biggest supporters and I'm definitely one of his biggest fans, and it SUCKS that we're going to different colleges.

Some of my favorite meals are spent with one of my guy friends from the first grade. We just sit down and rant about anything and everything, and we end it by saying how full and nauseous we feel.

The sad part is, though, these things only happen once in a blue moon. I'm so busy with being me that I don't really see my best guy friends as much as I wish I could.

Life's a little too crazy at the moment for me to justify getting into a relationship, and I wouldn't want to ruin whatever friendships I do have with them. It sucks, but if I'm being honest, my guy friends treat me like more of a queen than any boyfriend probably could right now.

I want them in my life for a long time, and I don't want to compromise that by complicating things with a relationship.

I know that whatever guy I do end up with is going to have a lot to live up to, and he's going to have to be approved by all of the guys that care about me and hold me up throughout my life.

My guy friends are some of my favorite people on Earth, and I wouldn't want it any other way.

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