Safety Tips For Young Women

34 Realities Every Girl Has To Deal With Even Though We Shouldn't Have To

As a girl, being respected and staying safe in our own homes, cars, and while out in public are our biggest struggles, concerns and anxieties.


Being a girl means that we deal with circumstances on the daily that we simply just shouldn't have to. In regards to general safety, our bodies and our lives, society has given us anxieties and fears. Being a girl is learning that you have to be on edge all the time, know your surroundings well, and always be ready to fight for your life.

1. Never feeling safe.

Being a girl means that we never feel safe. There is always a feeling of anxiety present when out in public, and even in our own homes. We genuinely fear that the storylines of crime shows will happen to us.

2. Always scanning our surroundings, always looking over our shoulders.

3. Always searching for possible exits and escape routes in rooms, stores, buildings, ect.

4. Not being able to walk down the street without someone verbally harassing us.

Whether it is another person walking pass us, construction workers, or passing cars, almost every time there is always a comment made– and typically extremely vulgar.

5. Not being able to dress appropriate for the weather without being verbally harassed or gawked at.

Running in shorts and a sports bra because it's hot as hell out? Can't do it without having to deal with pigs on the street.

6. Making sure to walk home holding our keys in our fingers.

7. Spending money on pepper spray and always having it on us in case of a potential threat.

8. Either walking without headphones entirely, or listening to music at a low volume, to stay aware of our surroundings.

9. Scanning alleys, bushes and tall grass around us to make sure there is no one hiding in them that could be a potential threat.

10. Taking random turns while driving to make sure a car isn't following us.

11. Having to extend our drive because a car is following us and we are trying to lose them.

12. Having to pull into a police station to hopefully lose the person following us.

13. Not being able to walk through a store without fearing someone is following us.

14. Having to pretend to talk on the phone when walking to your car to prevent someone from approaching you, or even worse, try to take you.

15. Possibly having to have store workers escort you to your car because you don't feel safe going by yourself.

So many stories have been coming out recently regarding women having to do this in fear that they could be attacked or taken by human traffickers.

***Human trafficking is a real and prevalent issue EVERYWHERE, even in small town Iowa.

16. Checking the trunk, backseats and underneath your car to make sure no one is hiding.

17. Locking your car doors before you even get all the way in it to ensure someone can't get to you while you aren't paying attention when just getting in your car.

18. Making sure to never park next to a big van.

You could be grabbed when getting in or out of your car.

19. Telling a friend when and where you are going, and constantly checking in with them to ensure your safety.

20. Getting fearful when being approached by a male.

21. Making sure to not stop for gas in a remote location or a run down gas station.

22. While in grade school, having to follow dress codes that push the idea that female bodies should be covered up and are nothing but a distraction.

"Shorts longer than your finger tips, otherwise you have to change or get sent home."

"Tank tops wider than an inch, otherwise it's a distraction."

If our bodies aren't taught to be interpreted as distractions, people won't view them as distractions.

Simple. As. That.

I'm all for professionalism, but when you are 5-18 years old being forced to spend 8+ hours in an un-air conditioned, hot environment, don't be cruel.

23. Walking alone at night is anxiety-ridding.

I have a personal connection to this. I work a job where some shifts I get off at times from 1 AM- 4 AM, which means I have a 1.5 mile walk back to my apartment in the dark. While most of the walk is well lit, there are bushes and a main street that I view as potential threats.

I am constantly on edge and fearful the entire walk home.

24. Dealing with sly comments about our bodies from older gentlemen that are simply disgusting and degrading.

"You sure are a beauty, I'm sure lots of boys go after you, I know I would."

"You sure have a big smile for such a petite girl."

"Boys better be treating a doll like you well." *grabs our shoulders or winks*

"God sure has blessed you." *scanning us up and down*

25. ALWAYS approaching other girls that are alone to make sure they are okay and if they need anything from you to feel safe or make it home okay.

26. ALWAYS approaching other girls that are alone with a guy to make sure they are not being taken advantage of.

27. Having to go to self-defense classes or teach yourself in case you get attacked.

28. Gripping on to your purse when in public to make it more difficult for someone to rob you.

29. Carry a damn rape whistle.

30. Feeling uncomfortable and having to go up to someone to tell them what's going on and hoping the situation gets better.

31. Noticing a creepy situation and writing down descriptions of the person, the situation, and the license plate.

My friend does this frequently when she is at work.

32. Always traveling in twos or in groups.

There is a reason relating to safety why we go to the bathroom in twos.

Numbers are power when fearing assault.

33. Never taking your eyes off of your drinks to make sure it isn't spiked or drugged.

34. Seeing little girls and feeling heartbroken by the fact that someday they will have to deal with similar realities.

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9 Reasons Crocs Are The Only Shoes You Need

Crocs have holes so your swag can breathe.

Do you have fond childhood objects that make you nostalgic just thinking about your favorite Barbie or sequenced purse? Well for me, its my navy Crocs. Those shoes put me through elementary school. I eventually wore them out so much that I had to say goodbye. I tried Airwalks and sandals, but nothing compared. Then on my senior trip in New York City, a four story Crocs store gleamed at me from across the street and I bought another pair of Navy Blue Crocs. The rest is history. I wear them every morning to the lake for practice and then throughout the day to help air out my soaking feet. I love my Crocs so much, that I was in shock when it became apparent to me that people don't feel the same. Here are nine reasons why you should just throw out all of your other shoes and settle on Crocs.

1. They are waterproof.

These bad boys can take on the wettest of water. Nobody is sure what they are made of, though. The debate is still out there on foam vs. rubber. You can wear these bad boys any place water may or may not be: to the lake for practice or to the club where all the thirsty boys are. But honestly who cares because they're buoyant and water proof. Raise the roof.

2. Your most reliable support system

There is a reason nurses and swimming instructors alike swear by Crocs. Comfort. Croc's clogs will make you feel like your are walking on a cloud of Laffy Taffy. They are wide enough that your toes are not squished, and the rubbery material forms perfectly around your foot. Added bonus: The holes let in a nice breeze while riding around on your Razor Scooter.

3. Insane durability

Have you ever been so angry you could throw a Croc 'cause same? Have you ever had a Croc bitten while wrestling a great white shark? Me too. Have you ever had your entire foot rolled like a fruit roll up but had your Crocs still intact? Also me. All I know is that Seal Team 6 may or may not have worn these shoes to find and kill Osama Bin Laden. Just sayin'.

4. Bling, bling, bling

Jibbitz, am I right?! These are basically they're own money in the industry of comfortable footwear. From Spongebob to Christmas to your favorite fossil, Jibbitz has it all. There's nothing more swag-tastic than pimped out crocs. Lady. Killer.

5. So many options

From the classic clog to fashionable sneakers, Crocs offer so many options that are just too good to pass up on. They have fur lined boots, wedges, sandals, loafers, Maryjane's, glow in the dark, Minion themed, and best of all, CAMO! Where did your feet go?!

6. Affordable

Crocs: $30

Feeling like a boss: Priceless

7. Two words: Adventure Straps

Because you know that when you move the strap from casual mode chillin' in the front to behind the heal, it's like using a shell on Mario Cart.

8. Crocs cares

Okay, but for real, Crocs is a great company because they have donated over 3 million pairs of crocs to people in need around the world. Move over Toms, the Croc is in the house.

9. Stylish AF

The boys will be coming for you like Steve Irwin.

Who cares what the haters say, right? Wear with pride, and go forth in style.

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10 TV Shows You Need To Watch On Hulu

Hulu is slept on


I have recently moved to watch shows and movies on Hulu and Netflix. Hulu has a lot of great shows and movies to offer that aren't on Netflix. While Netflix is still great, Hulu is definitely starting to grow on me. Here are some shows that I have watched or have started watching on Hulu that I think are pretty great!

1. 11.22.63

If you love James Franco and Stephen King, you'll love this show. The first episode is a bit long, but all the other episodes are only 45 minutes. The plot line is pretty interesting. I also like that it doesn't tell you everything, it shows it to you and you piece things together.

2. The Act

The fact that this show is based on a true story is just insane. The acting is really great, especially if you watch actual videos of Gypsy, Joey King does a great job.

3. Castle Rock

Another Stephen King masterpiece. This show is riveting and really makes you think about what the truth is in the context of the story, and brings in some ethical questions.

4. Future Man

I've only recently started this but it's pretty interesting and funny.

5. The O.C.

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This show was great. Sometimes it was a bit annoying, but it is a classic show from the early 2000s. You really become invested in all the characters and your opinion may change on some characters because they grow and develop throughout the show.

6. The Handmaid's Tale

If you've read the book, you should definitely watch the show.

7. Obsession: Dark Desires

I just love true crime stories and this really dives deep into crime stories and the darkest parts of humanity.

8. Intervention

This show can be really sad or frustrating, but I think it's good for people to see the reality of addiction.

9. Smallville

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I also started this one very recently and I've always wanted to watch it. It can be cheesy but it's pretty entertaining.

10. Brooklyn Nine-Nine

This is a great show if you want to laugh. I love all of the characters and everything they bring to the table.

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