I don't think anyone can argue with the idea that everyone is looking to be loved or accepted by at least one person. We obsess over our search to find "the one", and sometimes we let this obsession and impatience cloud our judgement.

There is a distinct difference between being attached to the person you are in a relationship with and being in love with the person you are in a relationship with, and not very many people know the difference or they have a hard time accepting it.

Being in love with someone is one of the greatest feelings a person can experience, and being attached is one of the most awful yet people still cling to their broken relationships with hope.

When you are in love with someone, their needs come before your own. You work to make them happy. You joke to make them laugh. Your focus is on them, and vice-versa.

When you are attached, it is for your own selfish reasons. You don't want to be lonely. You don't want to have to go through the awkward first date again. You're comfortable. Even though the relationship may be toxic, it's what you know. You hold onto the idea that one day they will change, or that one day things will be better. You don't stay in the relationship for them, you stay in the relationship for yourself.

I'm guilty of carelessly throwing around those precious three letter words, even though I didn't realize it at the time. I was naive. And often times I will see toxic couples break up and get back together and each every time, they share with the social media world about their "love".

You can love someone and not be in love with them. And you can love someone but be attached, because truth be told, you love yourself more.

Stop chasing that girl or going back to the guy that breaks your heart every time. Love yourself a little less to know you don't need him and it's okay to be alone. After all, being alone is not the same as being lonely.