Have you ever felt what true happiness felt like for yourself at least once in your life? You know that feeling when you were an innocent kid who got to enjoy the time of being carefree with no worries? When we got to go to school for free and come home to watch that one TV show we watch every single day, and those times we had spent with family at dinner or playing tag with friends outside. Those were good times right?

So how’s adult life treating you now? I’m sure those student loans must be a real set back for all of you. What about finding that amazing job that makes you loads of money or being in tons of failed relationships where you fall for the same type of guys who can never make you happy because you’re constantly giving in to their selfish needs? Yeah I get it. You’re depressed or you don’t feel satisfied with the way your life is because of what our society’s high standards pressures all of us to be. We have to be rich, successful, and build a wonderful life for ourselves to live life happily and comfortable. So are truly happy with yourself and where your life is right now?

For some, you are lucky enough to live a luscious and luxurious life and I am happy for those who truly are content with themselves. However I use to be someone who use to be so depressed because I always worry about other people and put their happiness first. Whether it was my family, best friends, or boyfriends, I had always put consideration of them into my life. Consideration of course is perfectly fine! However the problem wasn’t because of them, but it was because the one person I should always put first, is myself.

We think we have it all figure out on what we want in life but we are never truly satisfied with ourselves. There’s always some emptiness inside of all us because it’s just never enough. We always want more and more. We make mistakes and sometimes we can never let them go. We question our existence and our purpose in life but we never seem to find the answers. I am here to tell you that you can and you need to find your own happiness and nobody else.

It’s so important to figure out what you want for yourself. What gets you excited and gives you thrills because you’re genuinely happy doing what you love to do. Have you ever learned to be independent, happy, and confident? Do you love the job you have now? Or are you just working that 9-5 job because it pays the never ending bills you receive every month?

If you’re not happy with who you are and where your life is then it’s time for a change. I took a whole year off and moved to Australia to find myself after I graduated. During that time I moved, I had no friends, no family, and somehow ended up in an unhealthy relationship because I was too scared to be alone and didn’t believe I could make it on my own. I was not myself for those first 4 months I was there and was in a terrible depressed stage of my life. I had reach my lowest when I had little motivation to do anything, but that was when I finally took charge of my life. I made changes to myself by accepting the flaws and issues I have. When I started to make short-term goals for myself is when my life started to change. I found a dream job that I love to work as a production assistant and started to see myself as an amazing, beautiful woman that I am today. I was able to travel all over Australia and Asia on my own and discover the inner beauty within. I have a fresh new outlook on life now, and I’m so grateful for the opportunities that God has given me during my soul-searching journey. I can now say I am happier with myself because I took that time to get away from all the stress and toxic people I had to cut out of my life. I made the changes I needed to be happy with myself.

You are your number one priority because you are the only person who knows what is good for you and what is not. It’s your mind that likes to play tricks on you and try to stray away from what you need to do in life to be happy with yourself. It’s never too late to make the changes you need to be happy and no matter what happens in life, you are the only person who can truly take care of yourself and make the most out of life doing what you love to do. Do not let anyone else tell you that you can’t do anything or let their judgements on how you are living your life get in the way of what’s important. You have to always be honest with yourself and be confident of who you are to do what you need to do for yourself and nobody else. Be the best person you know you already are and remember that you are never alone if you always have yourself.