When you go to college, they tell you you’re going to find yourself. "They" are your parents, grandparents and family-friends alike, and "they" have decided that the next four years will be enough time for you to make all your best mistakes. By the time you leave college, you should have it--meaning life--miraculously figured out. It’s expected that you’ll be in a steady relationship and either be heading off to graduate school or to some job that will make your Great-Aunt Martha very proud by the time you throw your cap into the air.
Unfortunately, that’s not usually the way the cookie crumbles. No one tells you that it’s okay if you spend some nights alone on your couch watching "New Girl" or that sometimes it feels like life is hitting you with one megaton of bricks. Yet, that’s seems to be how your life is going. You’re a little more broken than anticipated.
The truth is, though, that it’s not such a horrible thing to have been broken, whether or not it’s simply heartbreak or something else. You know what they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
I didn’t think about this until I was crying on my friend’s dorm room futon, at one in the morning, about something that seemed relevant at the time. Dramatic, right? I know. However, the point is, she told me that everything is more beautiful for having been broken. She told me that the cracks you have acquired from various life experiences, good and bad, are the way your beauty and individuality shine through. Without them, you’d be ordinary. You’d be no different than the average person. However, with them, you are able to see the difference between where you've come from, and where you are now.
Being a little broken is simply a reminder of everything you’ve overcome. Being broken allows your beauty to be exposed. Being broken is not a bad thing. Contrary to popular belief, not having your life all sorted out isn’t the end of the world, and neither is being broken. It might even be a good thing.
