Beat Commercialized Valentines Day With These Thoughtful Presents.

Beat Commercialized Valentines Day With These Thoughtful Presents.

Do more than just buy the people you love flowers.

Valentines Day is a holiday our society has completely commercialized. Every year, heart shaped boxes start showing up earlier and earlier, along with little pink teddy bears and roses. It's supposed to be a holiday to express your genuine appreciation for the ones you love. But we easily turn that into purchasing some candy and flowers, maybe going out to dinner and you're done. Congrats, you've displayed your love. Love is more than whatever monetary value you try to give it. Flowers die. Jewelry is expensive (and if it's not, it's tacky jewelry). And chocolate, okay well there's no fault in chocolate. But if you really loved someone, you'd be buying them chocolate all the time, and vice versa. So in addition to the chocolate, here are some more thoughtful gifts you could consider giving your significant other.

Photo Album.

Bring out your inner Leslie Knope and make them a scrapbook of your adventures together. Don't just drop pictures into the plastic sleeves, add little notes about your memories and stick in cute decorations. Show that you've put time and effort into it because those were wonderful days together and you want to remember them as best as you can. I've received a scrapbook from my boyfriend and my best friend, and they were honestly some of the most thoughtful gifts I've ever gotten.


Rather than going out and buying your loved ones sugar cookies and candy, make it for them. Chocolate chip cookies right out of the oven that you worked hard to make yourself can't be beaten by store bought. As long as you're not horrendously bad at baking, homemade is the best made.

Day trip.

Take a mini vacation by exploring places a few hours from home. Check out your state parks, they might have weekend activities, or if they don't venture off on your own through the pretty scenery. Or go to another town you've never been to and enjoy the different opportunities for fun it has to offer. Try to make the drive part of the fun too, create a playlist of both of your favorite songs and introduce new ones to each other. Also don't forget the snacks.

Create together.

Go to a pottery shop and paint mugs together, or just buy art supplies and try doing portraits of each other. The worse you are at art, the funnier it is. Even if it's no good, being creative together is a bonding experience, and at the end, you've got an artifact to remind you of the other person.

Inside jokes.

Take a few inside jokes you've had over the time you've been together and turn them into silly gifts that reminisce on the funny times you've had. It will take more thought on your own part, but it tells your significant other that you've enjoyed the fun times and that you want to have more together.

Presents for the future.

Making a present last for a lot longer than just Valentines Day shows your significant other how much you love them all the time, not just on the day that you're expected to. So consider giving them lots of little presents they can open on days they need it. Write them a bunch of little notes about what makes them great, or happy reminders, or even just a fun memory that makes you smile. They can open them on days they're feeling down, or on days that you can't be there to comfort them in person. It's a gift they'll keep opening long after you gave it.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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