My biggest weakness when I was younger was always looking for validation from others. I thought my worth was based on how many people would like my pictures, or who would show up to my parties, and even who my friends were. As I got older, I realized none of that matters. I slowly became my own best friend.
I learned to enjoy my alone time and I soon craved it. I started small. I would go to the grocery store alone instead of asking a friend to come along. My next outing was to Panera. I sat at a table right next to the window and people watched while I ate my tuna sandwich. The anxiety I felt while walking into that restaurant alone was extremely high. Yet I left feeling more alive than when I walked in. I was my own best friend.
The hardest one was not an outing, but when I would breakdown in my apartment with nobody to turn to. This was a challenge. I cried, had a glass of water, and then showered while singing my favorite songs. I truly learned how to love myself enough to not need anyone else that night.
No matter who you are, even if you're one of the Kardashians, there will come days when you're all you have. Those days you have to be their for yourself because nobody else is. Its tough but these experiences will make you into that strong person who no longer needs outside validation because you're all you need. Once you're your own best friend, nobody can bring you down.
I became my own best friend because I started making moves that no longer involved anyone else and that changed my life.
