A new generation of adolescents has broken the foundation of relationships and dating. Today, relationships appear to be more stressful and complicated than they were in previous generations. This generation has set imaginary standards through the use of social media called "relationship goals", that somehow depict the perfect aspects of a relationship. Individuality and intimacy in relationships no longer exists because we would rather conform to another person's vision of "the perfect relationship". It appears as though this generation strives to be in perfect relationships because of how they are depicted.
No one enjoys the feeling of loneliness, and for some people it is a number one fear. Being in a relationship acts as a solution for loneliness, desperation, and dependency. However, it is okay to be single. You do not have to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled or less lonely. You have to strive for greater things in order to build yourself up. Depending on another person to fulfill your happiness, takes away your independence. You are no longer working towards making your life meaningful, but instead you are leaving that life behind.
Don't get me wrong. Being in a relationship does not automatically make you submissive or dependent on another person. I find that people who take relationships seriously and build connections with their partners, are the happiest people in the world. These relationships do not strip a partner of their individuality or calm their desperation. Instead, these relationships allow partners to build one another up, support the choices of their partners, and promote independence. It is a relationship that involves loving, caring, and kindness.
In order to be in a serious relationship that helps you grow as a person, you have to learn how to be single. Being single is not a bad thing. Actually, the time you take to be alone is time for yourself. Your single life allows you to figure yourself out, and determine what you want out of your life. You are able to set individual goals and achieve them independently. You are also able to connect with your own set of values and beliefs, that overall make you the person you are, and the person you want to become. Being alone actually makes you grow up some, because you do not rely on "relationship goals" for satisfaction. Instead, you rely on your own goals.
Overall, the person you choose to be when you are single will also determine the person you are inside. You can either learn a lot from your single life, or make your life less satisfying. As for the people who have to be in relationships, you are choosing to throw away your individuality because of your immature perception of relationships. Do not lose yourself while trying to be with someone else.
