Too often we settle for less than what we know we deserve simply for the status. We settle for those who mistreat us, and we seem to forget how we should really be treated because if you’re not in a relationship, “SOMETHING” is wrong with you. As if it’s no longer okay to want to be alone. You’re either too “ugly,” “slutty,” or insane. Don’t you think that some people just want to stay single because they don’t want to waste their time with someone who they know isn’t right for them? Oh no, God forbid that ever happens anymore. There still are people out there who prefer to wait rather than settle.
People tend to think they’ll never find someone simply because they don’t view themselves as beautiful. First off let me tell you, EVERYONE is beautiful. There is someone out there in this world who will love every single square inch of your body. Your flaws, your perfections, your desires, your everything. Plus it’s not all about looks. You don’t have to be the most beautiful/handsome person in the world to fall in love. Looks should not become a factor in determining who your significant other may become. They should just be a bonus. Plus, someone who is attractive to you may not be to someone else. Everyone has their own preferences and taste in others, someone, somewhere, is looking for someone EXACTLY like you. Please don’t bring yourself down if you’re single and you blame your “poor genes.” You are beautiful, I swear to you. Don't just be with someone because of their looks though. Wait for someone to come along whose personality outshines their apperance.
Alright, we all know that fu**boys/girls are taking over. BUT let me just say, some people who are supposedly “slutty” or “manwhores” aren’t. Yes, you heard that right, not everyone is just out there with intentions that are to hurt you. I guess what I’m trying to say is, some people choose to stay single and go out on dates with different people because they want to explore their options. I strongly think it's okay to go out with different people in order to find out what you like and dislike about someone so that you can find someone who will fit you best. I do not think that it's okay to go around and sleep with multiple people, so don’t get me wrong on that. Relationships shouldn’t begin with sex anyways. Going out to dinner, playing mini golf, seeing a movie, or something simple and innocent like that is okay. I know that the last thing I want to do is to get into a relationship where I become too comfortable with someone who isn’t what’s best for me. It doesn’t make me a slut to want to go out with different guys so that my heart doesn’t fall for the wrong person. No thank you.
Often people get dumped because their partner can’t handle them anymore. They’re “too crazy.” Yeah, I’ve heard that one too many times. But did you ever stop to think that, that person who is stressing you is IN LOVE WITH YOU. They argue with you so that they can make the relationship work. They yell at you to set you straight when you know damn well you did something wrong. They don’t want you hanging out around that girl/guy, yeah probably because they know that other person's intentions, and they are NOT good. Honestly, I’m going to put this as blunt as I can. Every person is crazy in their own way. No matter what they say, everyone has something that bothers them. Choose what kind of crazy you want to deal with because trust me, you can’t escape it. Someone who truly loves you should never give up just because there are a few bumps in the road. They should be willing to work on issues with you to better the relationship for not only you but themselves.
Please, by all means, wait for the perfect person. If you don’t feel sparks the second you see them, wait. If your whole stomach doesn’t fill with butterflies when they hug you, wait. If their kiss doesn’t linger on your lips moments after you kiss, wait. Please be patient with your heart. You don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend just to be like everyone else. You don’t need a partner because you want to be just like everyone else. It’s okay to wait. It’s okay to want to find Mr./Mrs. Perfect, and it doesn’t matter how long it takes you. Do not settle for less than what you deserve. You will appreciate your boyfriend/girlfriend so much more if you wait to find the ONE.
