Start Incorporating Gratitude Into Your Lifestyle

Start Incorporating Gratitude Into Your Lifestyle

Uncover the most neglected human emotion, and better your relationships and quality of life.

Gratitude is considered one of the most neglected emotions experienced by humans. It is also largely neglected and undervalued in the social sciences and psychology. This is why Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough published “The Psychology of Gratitude.” Here, they explain the widespread neglect of gratitude and are able to trace it back to emotional insecurities we have with giving others acknowledgment for their part in our well-being.

I am here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with giving thanks and showing gratitude to the people, places, and things that help you be you. That is why I'm giving you tips on incorporating gratitude into your lifestyle. Not only will it help you uncover the most neglected human emotion, but it will also help you better your relationships and quality of life.

1. Wake up & go to bed giving thanks

Giving thanks upon waking and again before bed is one way to start incorporating this “neglected” emotion into our lifestyles. One study by Emmons & McCullough found that “a conscious focus on blessing may have emotional and interpersonal benefits.” Therefore, giving thanks upon waking can introduce a positive start to the day. Suggestion: before getting out of bed, consciously brainstorm what you are thankful for at that moment. Repeat again before bed.

2. Keep a Gratitude Journal

To keep this positive vibe going throughout the day, I suggest using a gratitude journal. In doing so we keep a conscious focus and reminder on the blessings around us. Suggestion: use Pinterest or Instagram for prompts and motivation. Pinterest has several printable daily agendas and calendars that make being grateful fun.

3. Show Your Gratitude To Others

Once we start acknowledging what we are most grateful for, we may recognize people are on that list. The emotion of gratitude has the ability to help form and strengthen relationships. This is why we must always remind others how thankful we are for their presence in our lives. In this day and age with social media, it is not difficult to communicate our thanks to others. Suggestion: to make your gratitude more personal, write a handwritten note and send a small gift.


Now that you are done reading, I challenge you to send a message to someone that you are grateful for. It can be a simple hello or detailed explanation of why you are thankful for them. Regardless of what you say and who you say it to, find the words and send the message.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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Take The Time To Pronounce Names Correctly, They Mean A Lot

What's in a name? Plenty.


Names are often one of the first labels we get. It often makes us who we are and is deeply embedded in our sense of self. It's the word the world knows you as. Many people change their names to make them feel more like themselves. This speaks volumes to the effect a name has on you.

A name is a word like any other, just used to label someone. Like any other word, saying the word properly is important, especially because it is tied so closely to someone's sense of self.

Butchering someone's name consistently is simply unacceptable. Sure some names may be harder to pronounce and may seem unnatural but not trying is not okay. If you can get names like Stravinsky and Chmerkovskiy, a Nandini, Radhika, or Namrata shouldn't be too hard.

For some reason, it often seems like people have a hard time pronouncing names of people of color, which honestly seems a little odd to me considering many caucasian names are just as unconventional.

Comedian Hasan Minhaj recently appeared on "The Ellen DeGeneres Show" and addressed this issue. He pointed out that no one has an issue with the name Ansel Elgort, but they seem to have an issue with his name. Later, he joked that he goes by the name Timothée Chalamet at Starbucks, which they can handle just fine.

Mistakes are okay. We're all human and you're not expected to get everything correct on the first try. But simply accepting that you can't say it and not making an effort is disrespectful.

You don't need to say the name in the accent of the culture it's from. Say it in your accent but like any other word, keep the same number of syllables and put an emphasis on the correct vowels. Eventually, getting it will expand your horizons just a little bit more. Either way, trying is better than not trying.

That being said, to the people that need to correct others' pronunciation on their name, do it. If you don't tell people how to pronounce it, you can't expect them to get it properly. Many of us introduce ourselves with a name that isn't truly ours; it's a version that accommodates others.

Remember though, there is no shame in your beautiful, unique name so there is no need to anglicize it. Your parents didn't give you that name for it to fit better in other people's mouths.

Our names make up a large part of our basic identity and getting it right is beneficial for everyone.

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