Band Guys Have Made My Dating Standards Too Damn High

Band Guys Have Made My Dating Standards Too Damn High

At what point does this become a problem?


Okay. I may be a little in too deep with my band obsession. I prefer the term "infatuation," but if you want to call it an obsession, go for it.

Let me begin by saying there are SO many attractive band guys out there.

You've got Jack Barakat and Rian Dawson from All Time Low, Patty Walters from AS IT IS, Geoff Wigington from Waterparks, Derek DiScanio from State Champs...I could go on and on, but you get the picture.

When you've got a band guy, you've got many different things to love about them, such as their smile, their hair, their eyes, their stage energy, their hugs (if you're lucky enough to have met them), their laugh...and again, I have to stop myself before this takes a turn for the worst.

I'm going to be honest here, I'm single right now and that's totally okay with me. I have no interest in dating at the moment mostly because I'm way too busy, and that's probably why I find so many band guys attractive, but the problem is that they've made my standards way too high.

A few of my friends who are in relationships find one or two band guys attractive, but they still think their partner is the most attractive person in the world. That's totally fine and I can respect that, but I think my problem is that I haven't dated someone for so long and I have turned to find band guys attractive.

I mostly think my problem here is that they are involved with music. It's no secret that I LOVE live music. I love attending concerts whether I know the band or not - what's not to love about a concert?

It's really hard and complicated to explain, but every boy that I've been somewhat attracted to or have talked to has some connection to music whether they are in a band or we like the same ones.

This is why my standards are ruined. Boy bands really do ruin lives, guys. I didn't want to believe it, but now I'm too far down the hole to dig myself back up.

When the day comes that I'm finally ready to start dating again, I'm sure I'll fall in love or have a strong connection with the man that I'm with, regardless of if he has any connection to music whatsoever. It would be nice to have someone who loves bands and music as much as I do, but hey, a girl can dream, right?

To be fair, my standards are not so high that it basically crosses every guy off the list. Trust me, I'm not that difficult.

I just prefer guys who have a connection to music. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Know why? Because everyone has their type that they are attracted to, and this is my type.

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6 Important Must Knows For Dating Sassy And Sarcastic Girls

Brace yourselves boys, she's a tough one.

Dating a girl with a big personality can be tricky. They are some of the most amazing girls but to keep them, one needs to understand them. Here are six important things you must be aware of before you give your heart to a sassy and sarcastic girl.

1. Stubborn

She is going to be the most stubborn creature you will ever meet. I say "creature" because she might actually scare you with how much she refuses to back down until you have full proof she is wrong. And if you can’t prove her wrong, just suck up your pride and let her be right or she’ll never quit. But just remember that she’s simply passionate about whatever it is and you should be proud of her for that.

2. Bluntness

She is going to be blunt. So be prepared to hear the truth. She isn’t going to care how mad you get, if you’re being rude, she won’t be afraid to put you in your place. If your choice of clothing isn’t matching, she’ll tell you. Whatever it is, she isn’t going to keep the truth from you. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes she’s just a little too straightforward.

3. Sensitivity

Be careful sometimes with your choice of words. Though she is blunt, she is also sensitive. Her sarcastic personality is sometimes just a defense mechanism because she fears opening up. She worries a lot and continues to ponder the things you say. Remind her she is loved.

4. Friends

She is going to have a lot more guy friends than she will have girl friends. Why? Because guys tend to find more humor in her sarcasm and don’t take it so personal, whereas other girls take it as she’s being serious and just rude. However, don’t be jealous because trust me, you’re 100 percent hers and those guy friends are just that — friends.

5. Insults

She’s not going to flirt with you by giggling and blushing and calling you cute. She’s going to call you an idiot and smack you across the shoulder or back because to her, that’s easier than being all giddy and speechless over how much she likes you. And even when she’s calling you names, which really is in all fun and games, she doesn’t mean it seriously, she’s actually just saying “I love you” in her own special language.

6. Shorty

If she’s short in addition to being sassy and sarcastic, you’re in for a big treat with her. She is not only going to be full of fast wit, but she is going to have so much spunk in her you won’t know what to do. She will be so feisty that she won’t be afraid of anything or anyone and you yourself won’t even know how to handle her. That’s what makes her special.

It takes a certain type of person to be able to give their heart to someone who can so easily break it with their strong headed personality. But a sarcastic and sassy girl is going to be the one girl who is going to love you with all that she has. Treat her right, and she’ll treat you right.

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