When you are terrible at keeping in touch, you tend to have a lot of issues in remembering that you have people you need to keep in touch with. You know that they're still important to you, no matter who they are, but the issue is that once they're removed from your usual routine, you start to forget about them.
The situation of the separation is usually distance or a disconnect, you just don't see them as much as you used to. Their presence in your mind becomes overshadowed by others in no time even though they're still there.
You tell yourself that maybe the other person is busy, when in reality, they're probably just binge-watching Netflix in their room just like you are. At least text them to remind them that you're still around if they ever want to plan something with you. Remember that keeping in touch means keeping the link between people strong, and it shows that you care about the friendship you have with the other person.
But maybe that isn't easy for you because you know there's a large difference between you two. You have changed with time, no matter how short, and they surely have too. Maybe the issue is that you think the friendship between you is gone. Maybe the bond is broken and you won't know how to continue from the point you left off with them.
There are quite a few reasons for why you're bad at keeping in touch, some of the main ones being unselfish, caring thoughts despite popular belief. You have learned from experience with relationships that you had that a constant "clinginess" to another person can come off as bad and ruin the relationship. As a method to escape this clingy nature you may have had in the past, you purposely wait for the other person to contact you first.
But sometimes the call or text never comes.
Most times it's not because they don't want to spend time with you, but usually it's because when you saw each other every day, you initiated interaction. You started everything. Maybe they expected you to start the reconnecting conversation.
A reconnecting conversation that you don't know how to begin.
You still care about them and know they can live without you so you let them go for a while. Unfortunately, that "while" becomes a long period of time where you realize maybe you should have reached out to them to check on them. You know they're still there, but now the time gap since the last time you talked to them is large and menacing.
Will they even remember you? Maybe they don't need to hear from you after all. They'll be fine. After all, they're your friends. You pick great friends... you just suck at keeping in touch with them.
