Some marriages are what they seem, but some hard to deal with. Throw a baby in the middle and you feel like you're ready to explode! This will be a journey for not only me, but for you too. A little back story for this: I had my sweet baby 9 months ago. However, one thing got in the way for my husband and that was my weight. I didn't get lucky like some other girls, I didn't lose the baby weight. After finding out that I'm just not attractive to my husband, well.. We can start there.

Attraction... Romantic or sexual, being told by the person you married and had a kid with that they just don't find you attractive anymore sucks. What have I done for it? It has been almost a week since I got that bombshell and yeah, I'm still hurt. I have been dieting for awhile, even though my husband would say different. He changed me into someone I don't know in a week.I took what was (crappy) healthy criticism and blamed myself, I grew up learning that i need please my husband. Now? I think he needs to try to please me too. Talking to a man though, it is hard. What can us ladies do about it?

We need to talk to them. Tell him, fix your stuff too. If there is anything that they need to work on, tell them. Just be honest about it. Does he need to lose weight? You both can do that together? Does he have a thyroid problem and does not want to fix it? Tell him that it worries you. Express your concerns because you two should love each other enough to tell each other! Yeah, it's scary to do but you need to do it at some point.

Oh, you won't look the same 10 years from now. I am going to stress that for a moment because even I had to tel my husband that. You age, that happens. You aren't going to be in your "hot forever 20's", If you are, then I am incredibly happy for you!! I hope you feel great about yourself in 10 years.

Now, baby weight.. DUN DUN DUN! Alright guys, some women lose it right away and some, don't. Please, for the love of God, do not tell her she needs to lose weight! Instead, marvel.. Marvel that her body created life. Marvel that she had to have her organs moved around for that amazing joy of life. Marvel that she had the strength to push the baby out or have the baby cut out of her. I cannot stress that enough. Guys have a hard time thinking that and I am incredibly sorry.There are other things going on other than weight. I know, they don'y understand that. We have to teach them.

I am going to end this and say, you girls are beautiful and I am proud of what you did. You are strong for it.