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13 Reasons I Choose To Not Date The Random Frat Boy And Avoid Commitment In College

Just in case the pressure becomes too much to handle, here's a reminder from a single and happy gal

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13 Reasons I Choose To Not Date The Random Frat Boy And Avoid Commitment In College

Emma Kindsvatter

Relationships can be an extremely tricky subject to tackle, whether writing about it, reading about it, or experiencing it yourself. As a college student especially, I feel extremely pressured to take part in many aspects of relationships, whether that be casually dating, committed relationships, or even just sex itself. Some people perceive others that avoid relationships as prudes, or people who can't find someone to like them.

While some people do fit that stereotype, most people have other things occupying them, to the point where dating a boyfriend doesn't even fit in a sliver of the schedule.

Here are some of my top reasons of why I choose to remain single in college, and how I avoid all the pressures surrounding me to go out with that random nameless frat boy I met last Friday.

1. My schedule is too full for a boyfriend.

As most college students know, we are all trying to tackle many aspects of our life. With my school workload, along with trying to maintain a social life with my friends, I don't have any time to commit to a relationship.

2. Tinder becomes a hilarious source of entertainment.

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3. You get to discover who you are—all by yourself.

Not having a boyfriend or romantic partner in your life frees up some of your "me" time, allowing you to find out things about yourself you didn't know before.

4. Your happiness is your own.

Relating back to number three, you make your own happiness, and it no longer depends on what anyone else says about you.

5. No "friend that is a boy" drama.

I have had countless people assume that if I have a friend that's a guy, we're automatically seeing each other romantically. In a relationship, this can come with many accusations and problems.

6. You can have as many girl nights as your heart desires.

This one should be self explanatory...

7. College is the perfect time to crush on someone, and then crush on someone else, and then crush on someone else again.

College is a time to find out who you are, and what you like. Test the waters and see what you truly like in a guy!

8. There's nothing holding you back from doing whatever the hell you want.

You are not tied down to anything when you're single, nothing to factor in before you do something, so go out and celebrate being free!

9. You'll know how to handle being single after a relationship.

If you did it once and you loved it, you sure as hell can do it again!

10. The bed is ALL YOURS.

Whether you sleep in a king or a tiny twin, sprawl out and know that space is all yours for however long you want it.

11. Your confidence will skyrocket.

You don't need a relationship to know how amazing you are! Being single will teach you how to be confident in your own skin.

12. The right person will come into your life when it is the right time.

You cannot force love onto anyone, so let everything happen, and take it all with a grain of salt.

13. The future—your dreams, goals, and aspirations—are all yours to focus on.

You have all the time in the world to focus on exactly who you want to be. Get out there, become a doctor, or a teacher, or a model, or whatever you want to be, and do it knowing you are an independent, beautiful person!

These are some of the main reasons I choose to stay single throughout my college years. While I do still have a lot of respect for people who maintain committed relationships in college, I'm taking this time to focus on me, and I am absolutely in love with the paths I've tread so far.

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Just in case the pressure becomes too much to handle, here's a reminder from a single and happy gal

1. My schedule is too full for a boyfriend.

2. Tinder becomes a hilarious source of entertainment.

3. You get to discover who you are—all by yourself.

4. Your happiness is your own.

5. No "friend that is a boy" drama.

6. You can have as many girl nights as your heart desires.

7. College is the perfect time to crush on someone, and then crush on someone else, and then crush on someone else again.

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9. You'll know how to handle being single after a relationship.

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11. Your confidence will skyrocket.

12. The right person will come into your life when it is the right time.

13. The future—your dreams, goals, and aspirations—are all yours to focus on.

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

Obviously the best superpower.

There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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